Tips for the Anxious Bride

I feel the same way! So much anxiety.

Do a see a counselor? With clinical anxiety that might help a lot! Cuz I don’t want to stress you out but the stress amps up from here and I want you to get all the support you need. 🤗

That said, one big thing that helped us was that we planned the wedding WE wanted and didn’t share any details. Very helpful if you have negative people in your life. Also, breathe, but know things WILL go wrong. Rain, flakey vendor, broken button, timeline off, someone’s unhappy, wrong drinks or appetizers... the point is, you’re marrying your best friend. Keep that in mind and any mishaps will only add to the amazing memories of your wedding day. For the pre-planning, we did WAY too much DIY: details go unnoticed and we stressed ourselves out so much the weeks and day of. Our biggest lessons.


Hope something I said might help!

First I'd like to say, it's your wedding - not your FMIL's! So stick to your decisions

I'm on medication for anxiety and have been so even before the wedding. I know how crippling anxiety can be and it can be so difficult to get past. As PP said, I would recommend a clinical therapist if you feel you're unable to manage the anxiety on your own. There's nothing wrong with getting help!

Your wedding is going to be beautiful and uniquely yours! People are going to have their opinions, but at the end of the day it's about what you and your future spouse want! Trying to please everyone will only wear you out more. Be firm and don't let anyone sway you

Hi Bailey, I'm sorry wedding planning is causing you stress. It's fraught enough without adding anxiety on top of it. Definitely see a counselor for coping techniques and talk to a doctor about whether medication might be right for you.

Personally, I think the best way to mitigate day-of stress and anxiety is getting a rockstar wedding planner or day-of-coordinator. I know it's an extra expense, but they do SO MUCH to mitigate worries, they coordinate and communicate with your vendors, they deal with the little issues that crop up that might otherwise throw you for a loop... Seriously consider whether you can find room in your budget for one because I think the value - your mental health for the next year - is worth the cost. Then the next time you're plagued with intrusive thoughts about something going wrong, your mantra can be "my awesome coordinator will fix it" or "leave that to the professional"!

Anxiety is no joke and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. I hope you keep a close support network around you who know how to help you through when you're spiraling.