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Tips for Planning Wedding without a Wedding Party?

Octavia, on January 24, 2020 at 9:43 AM Posted in Planning 0 2

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Hi Everyone!

FH & I decided not to have a wedding party. Family and Friends will still be there in special seats, just no formal roles so everyone just come as they are and enjoy themselves. Can anyone whose done this share any tips? It’s all seemed so simple so far, I feel like I’m forgetting something...

I have the following so far:

- Officiant holds rings

- Have a “lady in waiting” or someone in the front row hold bouquet. Let them know ahead of time

- Carefully pick song selection and timing for ceremony

- assign two witnesses who will know ahead of time.

- Schedule your own events (we are doing coed)

- Don’t expect anyone to do anything on their own since you did not designate roles

- invite family and close friends to come by while getting ready.

Anything else? Anyone who’ve skipped having a wedding party have any regrets?

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Latest activity by 2d Bride, on January 24, 2020 at 11:11 AM

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Sherry · on January 24, 2020 at 9:52 AM
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We didn't have a bridal party. We did however give honorary titles. I chose my cousin to be my maid of honor because we have always done everything together. We are 11 days apart so we have always been really close (we are 40 now and she got married a few months before me). Her only "roles" were pretty much up to her. She chose to throw us a couples shower and she wanted to help me get ready. My husband made his dad his honorary because they are super close. His dad helped tie his tie the day of, keep him feeling calm etc. Neither had any real roles, they had no requirements put onto them and neither stood up with us or walked down the aisle before us. They were seated among the other guests. They were both so happy to have been asked as they both cried when we did our proposals to them. It was all very sweet.

As far as your other questions, we held each others rings (my dress had pockets!) and my mother held my bouquet.

Absolutely NO regrets, our day was perfect!
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Champion October 2009
2d Bride · on January 24, 2020 at 11:11 AM
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On the bouquet, you can just put it down on the altar.

You may also want to have someone come up and fluff your train, if you have one.

With regard to "Schedule your own events (we are doing coed)," you should not be planning your own shower or bachelor/bachelorette" parties. Anyone can offer to host one of these, even if you have no wedding party. (In fact, the wedding party would not be obligated to hold them, even if you had one.) But if no one offers, you just don't have them.
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