Devoted August 2019


Amanda, on July 19, 2019 at 4:25 PM Posted in Planning 0 9
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Ok. So we were told to tip our caterer 20% of our total bill and ask them to divide it between wait staff and bartenders. Here's the thing, 20% of our bill would be an additional $1,000! Is that right? It just seems like a lot of extra money... In total we will have one coordinator, 3 wait staff and 1 bartender... That's a $200 tip for each person. That's seems high to me. How did everyone else handle this?


  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    For me, there was a gratuity fee built in of 15% but I've definitely seen some venues ask for 20% or more, even
  • A
    Devoted August 2019
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    Ours is not built in. We were told tips were appreciated but not expected. Honestly my plan was to tip everyone $50 that was working our wedding....but now I'm wondering if that makes me cheap 馃槵
  • Peggy
    Master November 2019
    I鈥檓 having the same issue, I cannot imagine coming up with another $1200...following for suggestions
  • Jasmine
    Rockstar August 2020

    Wow! Yea, I'd definitely have to get in touch with my venue and check on this. Also following for suggestions.

  • D
    Super July 2020
    Were you told or was it a suggestion? Is this a service fee or strictly gratuity?
  • D
    Super July 2020
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    No not cheap in general. The coordinator and bartender should have gotten more than the service staff if you had a coordinator or bartender. But $50 for service staff is good.
  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Does the wait staff have an hourly rate that you are aware? Also how many servers are there & how many hours are the working? We have 2x servers working our wedding for 4x hours & I am planning on tipping $100 per each. There is also 1x bartender, who has an undisclosed hourly amt, will have a tip bucket & we will tip $100.
  • Rebecca
    Super August 2019

    As a server, no, that is not unreasonable.

    We are on our feet the entire night. We are there before the event to set up, and there after to clean up. We get no breaks, or very limited breaks. Our entire day is devoted to making your experience smooth and enjoyable.

    I know it's hard, but trust me, your waitstaff deserve it.

  • Courtney
    Rockstar December 2019
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    Same here- it's not included in our bill so we're going to tip $50 a server and bartender. Between that and the bar tips, I'm sure they'll walk about with about $75-100 each.

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