Micaiah
Devoted July 2019

Tipping

Micaiah, on May 4, 2019 at 3:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 21
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Who do you tip? How much do you tip? When do you tip???
Photographer?
Cake baker?
Alterations person?
Help!!!

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Latest activity by Mrsalzo, on May 6, 2019 at 7:07 PM
  • Maggie
    Super April 2020
    Maggie ·
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    HMUAs
    photographer
    DJ
    catering (unless it’s in the contract already)
    i’m Not going to tip my waitstaff and bartender as it’s part of our contract and i’m not tipping the alterations people
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  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
    CDickman ·
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    I was always told you tip anyone that does a service for you.
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  • Katie
    Devoted September 2020
    Katie ·
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    I say tip whoever does a fantastic job. You're already paying for their services so I don't think you should feel you Have to tip anyone. I know that's not a popular opinion, but as an example: if your DJ just shows up, plays music and does the bare minimum, I do not think you should have to tip just because it's "expected." But if your alterations lady goes above and beyond, is quicker than expected, etc I'd say tip her even if it's not typically expected.
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  • Future Mrs. Kate Wilson
    Dedicated May 2023
    Future Mrs. Kate Wilson ·
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    I stand by this 100%. Having to tip your vendors isn't necessarily a requirement. You pay what you owe, and hope for the best result. If you don't feel that the quality of their work is up to standard, just don't tip period. You're already paying thousands of dollars for their services anyway.
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  • Val
    Dedicated September 2019
    Val ·
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    I completely agree with this!
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  • Michelle
    Devoted August 2019
    Michelle ·
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    We aren’t tipping anyone.. out bartender is putting his own tip jar out so that’s his tip.
    We paid a lot of money for our venue bartender photographer and catering just like everyone else I’m sure so we aren’t doing nothing more
    sorry I just feel we laid out a bunch of money for what we needed and I’m not paying anything else
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  • K
    Dedicated May 2019
    kelsey ·
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    Following!!!
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  • Schyler
    Dedicated January 2023
    Schyler ·
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    I found this video on YouTube when I was looking at other things. Its all about tipping. I hope this helps.

    https://youtu.be/Wkzj9zo_wUw
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  • Futuremrsk
    VIP August 2019
    Futuremrsk ·
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    We will be tipping:
    Hair and makeup
    Photographer (after we get pics back)
    DJ (after the wedding provided they do a good job)
    Officiant (maybe, might do small gift)
    Our catering contract includes tips for servers and bartenders.
    I believe that you tip whoever gives you excellent service. A lot of wedding vendors set their own prices so I think tipping for those that go above and beyond your expectations is appropriate. Also, tipping after the wedding and after you see the final result and have a chance to reflect is more than appropriate. When you go out to eat you determine whether your server gets a tip at the end of the meal, not before. It should be no different for a wedding or any other service for that matter.
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  • F
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Fatima ·
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    Totally agree!
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  • A
    Dedicated May 2019
    Autumn ·
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    THIS. Like, seriously.
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  • A
    Dedicated May 2019
    Autumn ·
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    I do agree with this. My alterations lady took less than a week to virtually re-make my dress from the ground up, for less than $250. I tipped and had all of my bridal party go to her. She took around 3 days to do each of theirs, for less than $100 each (the least expensive was $60!) With the most fabulous attitude EVER. She hot tips all around.
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  • A
    Dedicated May 2019
    Autumn ·
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    Bad form...
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  • A
    Dedicated May 2019
    Autumn ·
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    Very nice! This was a fantastic idea, Darling!
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  • A
    Dedicated May 2019
    Autumn ·
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    This is actually how we're handling things as well.
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  • A
    Dedicated May 2019
    Autumn ·
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    This is bad form... if someone does an exemplary job, they should be tipped a little extra. If you're paying so much for the wedding an extra $10-30 for a job very well done shouldn't be that big of a deal... That's my opinion on this anyway...

    We're tipping our caterer because of they're patience with payments and great suggestions. We're tipping our photo/video people for patience with payments as well. The floral lady gets no extra for a bad attitude and NO ppatience.My alterations lady got tips from me and all my party for a FANTASTIC attitude and fast,great work. The bartender has their own tip jar, so that's up to individuals. The venue gets no extra for being far too fussy about many things.
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  • Samantha
    Super August 2019
    Samantha ·
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    Agreed!

    We are tipping my HMUA b/c I always tip my stylists, my DOC because she’s going above and beyond with a few things - like doing pick up and drop off of rentals for no charge (they’d charge us $90 each way!) That’s it!

    Not tipping anyone in catering because it’s stated in the contract they already get compensated and it’s not required, the DJ, or Rabbi but gifting him a kosher bottle of wine.

    That said everyone is going to get a hand written thank you card and online review which are all positive so far! To me as a business owner that’s the best tip because it helps bring in new business.
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  • A
    Dedicated May 2019
    Autumn ·
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    That's pretty well thought out.
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  • J
    Master October 2019
    Jolie ·
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    They say you don't have to tip anyone who owns their own business but then there are other factors to consider. HMUA are always tipped 15-20%, and you usually tip the officiant, and the servers/waitresses/caterer. Whether that be an individual split up each person gets say $30 or you base it off your total food costs. Many times it is based on contracts as well. Based on that tipping video link someone put above the girl said coordinators don't expect a tip and I think she said djs don't either. my photographer owns her own company so we are not tipping her and I don't think I will be tipping our DOC simply because she is the venues event manager, she makes her money. It's up to you if you want to tip of florist and cake delivery. Again, both of these own their own company in my case so they set their own prices.

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  • kymarmck
    Super March 2020
    kymarmck ·
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    We will be tipping:

    Officiant - $50

    Photographer - $75

    DJ - $75

    Our catering and bar bill already include gratuity but I'm going to tell them that they're more than welcome to put a tip jar out in case guests want to tip them!


    We will give their tips AT the wedding, probably towards the end of the night so that I know I'm satisfied with their services. This is just a me thing but I always feel bad when/if I don't tip so if they only do the bare minimum I'll probably only tip $20 or something haha.


    Also for your vendors I would make sure gratuity isn't included in their pricing. As we speak to vendors a lot more are factoring gratuity into your bill so technically you don't have to tip them Smiley smile

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