Tipping with a Check?

I work freelance, and I almost never mind a check so long as it doesn't bounce. Asking them to wait is challenging, although it usually takes a few days to go through anyway so you might be safe.

Can you take some out of your savings for tips that you just replenish when you get paid? That may be the simplest option.

FutureMrsR, unfortunately, I've already done that.

All the last minute stuff kinda snuck up on me.

My BM owe money for a comedy show we are going to Friday, more girls night out than bachelorette. If I can get that I'll be in the clear, but since I can't really count on that, I want to plan for worse case.

I suppose you could always mail them the tip? Maybe with a nice note about how much you appreciate the work they put into the wedding. Give them to a friend to mail while you're gone to arrive after you've been paid

@op I agree with @danilaughs, that makes the most sense to me. You could also mail them out the day you leave for your honeymoon, they would arrive after you get paid and you could relax knowing for sure it got done.

I've read other brides/grooms mailing tips afterwards also. I envision myself to be very busy the day of the wedding and I won't be carrying cash so there's a good chance tips will be sent afterwards.

I am not handing any tips directly to any vendor. I will wait to see if they performed their job properly and then I am sending their tip in the mail with a thank you card.

I am not going to worry about tips the day of. We will be too busy etc. i plan on sending them afterwards with a thank you note. So far all of my vendors have been cool a shit. They feel like family. Im so excited for the big day!!!

Okay, so worry about the little guys the day of, like cake delivery person and servers, but leave the bigger tips for mailing?

I feel like seeing some envelopes handed out, and not receiving one at the same time, may make it look like the larger tip vendors weren't considered or worse, overlooked. Yes, they'd realize that wasn't the case a few days later when it arrived in the mail, but I think I'd rather an eye roll of inconvenience at the end of the night, knowing they got appreciated, than someone thinking they didn't do well enough to wow me until days later. These vendors have all been amazing with communications and questions galore, so I feel they've already earned something.

But knowing that checks aren't horrible and that sending it late is an option does open s few options for me and I very much appreciate it. FH is on shift so when he gets back Thursday I can sit down and see which option he'd prefer.

It is not good to give someone a check and tell them to cash it after a certain date. I think you options are to mail them or to ask your BMs to pay you back ASAP.