Tipping vendors!! Help😂😅😅😅

There's a lot of stuff that I have found on pinterest about suggested amounts for tipping certain vendors. I attached one below. It varies based on cost, services, whether they own the business, etc. I've also heard of putting together thank you notes with the tips beforehand and giving them to your planner/coordinator or other trusted person for them to give to all the vendors so you don't have to worry about it.

Tipping

One of the great things our venue coordinator did for us was provide the names of all the staff working my daughter's wedding...we got the name of each server, each bartender, and each member of the kitchen staff (there were four line cooks, two who worked the mac 'n cheese station and late-night snack stations). I was able to prepare individual envelopes for each with their names.

At the end of the evening, I handed the server's envelopes to the coordinator to provide to each of them. I went to the kitchen and asked to see the staff, handing each one their envelope (I also had one for the head chef who had already left for the night - I gave that envelope to the manager on duty to give to him the next day). I was able to give the bartenders each their envelopes as well at the end of the night.

We gave the DJ an additional $100 (on top of his $1300 charge) in his final payment. We had an envelope with $200 cash for the photographer (and his second shooter), we gave it to him when he arrived at the house for the getting ready photos and left it up to him to share with his helper (on top of his $2700 charge). Daughter had an all inclusive venue. In addition to the included "service" charge, we gave the venue coordinator envelopes for the following (based on her recommendations, when we asked): $100 for each of 2 bartenders (NO tip jars!), $50 for each of two valets (no tip jars...), $200 for the venue coordinator to distribute to servers (she suggested this, saying some work much harder than others, so we left it to her discretion to distribute), and $200 for the coordinator and her assistant (again, leaving it up to the head coordinator to distribute as she saw fit; she did NOT suggest this, but daughter LOVED her and she made our lives SO much easier, we wanted to acknowledge that). We tipped the cake delivery person $25. HMUA was tipped $100 on $500 worth of day of services. So, on a $32,000 wedding, about $1125 total in additional tips (beyond "service charges"). Daughter loved all of her vendors and we wanted to recognize them for being so awesome to work with.