A.Magill.Since.May
Master May 2018

Tipping the seamstress?

A.Magill.Since.May, on March 19, 2018 at 6:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16
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I had my last alterations appointment last week with my seamstress who was incredibly wonderful and helpful turning my MIL's 80's gown into the dress of my dreams (not substantial difficult changes, but still). My mother paid for the alterations by check and I took my dress home.

I'm sitting down to write her a thank you note and I'd like to give her a tip in cash, even though I know it's not necessary. I was thinking giving her a $20 (10% of my alterations cost) but I'm worried that might be offensively small? I can't afford to tip her much more than that with the tight budgeting as we go into the final stretch of wedding planning and paying (I did not originally budget to tip on the alterations).
Do you think the $20 is fine? Should I skip tipping her all together and just write a heart felt note?

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  • Amanda
    Master October 2018
    Amanda ·
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    If you want to tip give 20 %
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  • Kiley
    Super February 2019
    Kiley ·
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    I think that you could do either way. Personally I feel like a 15-20% would be better than 10%. Just based on her outstanding service but if you can't afford that then either would be sufficient in my opinion
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  • K
    Dedicated September 2018
    Kelsey ·
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    At the very least I would give her 30, but a little tip is better than no tip if 20 is really all you can afford.
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  • Red Queen
    VIP May 2018
    Red Queen ·
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    I would send a nice card and write a positive review on social media, but no cash. Tipping is getting way out of hand. She set her rate and she works for herself I assume, so a tip isn't appropriate.

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  • A.Magill.Since.May
    Master May 2018
    A.Magill.Since.May ·
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    See, this is why I'm so conflicted! I wish they didn't kick out the vendors that used to be on here. They were so helpful.
    I guess I should tip $40 or nothing at all with my thank you not... Idk what to do.
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  • A.Magill.Since.May
    Master May 2018
    A.Magill.Since.May ·
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    PerfectWeddingGuide.com says tipping is unnecessary but if you are thrilled with the results tip $15-30. I think I'm going to go with my original plan and send $20 in the thank you note.
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  • Anna
    Expert June 2019
    Anna ·
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    I think $20 with a thank-you note is very appropriate.
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  • PrincessLawrence
    VIP June 2018
    PrincessLawrence ·
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    I think she will appreciate it either way

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  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
    The Nuptials ·
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    Don't do cash if you are mailing! But I think $50 is nice.
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  • A.Magill.Since.May
    Master May 2018
    A.Magill.Since.May ·
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    Why? It's tucked safely inside the card.
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  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
    The Nuptials ·
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    Because the mail gets scanned and a postal worker who is hard on cash can intercept it and that’s that for your cash. Write a check.
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  • Heather
    Expert March 2018
    Heather ·
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    I wanted to give my seamstress something for all her hard work. So i found a pretty necklace and earring set for her to wear.
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  • Victorian Bride
    VIP June 2026
    Victorian Bride ·
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    I'm so afraid I'm going to forget to thank someone. I have a list, but still.... I applaud you for having it all together!!❤
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  • A.Magill.Since.May
    Master May 2018
    A.Magill.Since.May ·
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    I don't know the seamstress well enough to buy her jewelry. That's a really personal gift imo, too personal for a customer to vendor gift. I'd rather give her money to spend on whatever she likes.
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  • Miaaa
    Super January 2018
    Miaaa ·
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    You don't have to tip her, but also don't forget to write her a glowing review if she owns her own business!

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  • LaraLouM
    Super May 2019
    LaraLouM ·
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    I agree with this. It means more to most business owners to get glowing reviews than a little bit of cash.
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