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Tipping officiant?

Katie, on February 28, 2020 at 1:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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My husband and I got married in a church where we are not members. We had to pay the church quite a lot actually ($2000), but the priest who married us is not a priest at that church. We had to find someone we have a tenuous connection with to marry us since that church didn't allow their priest to marry non-members. My question is, should we tip the priest who married us? Or send some kind of gift other than a thank you note? In addition, because we live in a different city than we got married in, another priest met with us to prepare our paperwork at our home parish. Should we send him a gift? Make a donation to our parish? Would love etiquette advice on this topic. Thanks!

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Latest activity by Theresa, on February 28, 2020 at 1:00 PM

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Rachael · on February 28, 2020 at 6:34 AM
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I would probably make a donation to his church
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Danielle · on February 28, 2020 at 11:18 AM
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$2000 for the church and you found your own officiant omgeeeeee! I would definitely tip or pay the officiant who did marry you. Nothing else.
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Theresa · on February 28, 2020 at 1:00 PM
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Yes, since the priest marrying you is not associated with the Church you're being married in, they (or their Church) should be tipped. It would be nice to donate to the Church where the priest is preparing the paperwork, but I don't think it's required.
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