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Tipping- i want to do this right!

Kristina, on May 27, 2019 at 11:57 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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Sorry for the one millionth thread on tipping...

I like the idea of having cash in labeled envelopes ready for someone to hand out the day of. It’s difficult to prep for though as I won’t know the final bill until the end. I’ve seen conflicting arguments for tipping venue staff and want to see what everyone thinks.

Some details... We are having our ceremony and reception at separate locations. There will be bartenders in another room, possibly also serving the regular restaurant guests as well. The venue coordinator said we will have 3-4 cocktail servers taking drink orders. Food is buffet style.

SO, do we pay, say, 20% of the final food/drink bill on the credit card since we don’t know how much it will be until the end and hope it gets properly distributed? Or, do we have separate cash envelopes for the bar staff and the wait staff, or all together? Or is 20% of a huge bill like that too much for cocktail servers? Should they and the bartenders just get $100 a piece, for example?
TIA for any advice!

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Latest activity by Schyler, on May 27, 2019 at 1:36 PM

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karen · on May 27, 2019 at 1:03 PM
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I hope you reviewed gratuities included in venue contracts before you signed a contract. Most venues compensate servers differently than restaurants. But if you did not, you should talk to them NOW and ask what do most people tip. Now, I suspect they will give you an answer on the high side, but it is generally NOT 15-20%. It is more likely 25 per server (or 50, if you live in a high COLA area)
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Beginner September 2019
Kristina · on May 27, 2019 at 1:05 PM
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This is definitely something I need more clarification on from the venue event coordinator. We have only met with her once and haven’t gotten the contract yet. She did say that gratuity is not included.
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karen · on May 27, 2019 at 1:28 PM
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You indicate a date of Sept 2019, you should have received contract by now. Without a contract you have NO confirmed date. Send a certified letter for contract If you do not receive, you have to make other plans. Have you made a deposit.
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Schyler · on May 27, 2019 at 1:36 PM
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Go watch this video it will tell you what you need to know about tipping. If you are planning with out a planner or only having a day of coordinator this lady is amazing!!!

https://youtu.be/Wkzj9zo_wUw
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