Tipping Etiquette

You could use envelopes to put the money in. This makes it easier than handing them cash.

You could put the cash in an envelope with a thank you note, and give them the envelope! That might feel a little less awkward than handing cash. You could also ask your MOH or best man to hand out the tip envelopes to your vendors.

You really should wait until at least a week after the wedding is over when you are in an objective mindset to assess everyone’s performance. Only tip those who have gone above and beyond the call of duty. Do not tip for no shows or bad/mediocre service. Tips can be given via envelope in person or send them via Venmo.

View Quoted Comment I hadn’t even thought of this! No one ever talks about how long to wait or if it should be done immediately. Thank you for the advice!

I would have a dedicated person on the wedding ceremony team to do that. Definitely have the funds in a envelope ✉️

View Quoted Comment There is no way whatsoever to tell on the wedding day or leading up to it what their service will be like on the wedding day. And the couple is in a happy bubble so they may not notice what is going on around them. At the same time that you read/hear about horror stories where things go wrong because of the vendors who are great leading up the big day and they still get big tips that are set aside before the wedding due to Wedding Industry pressure from articles on the subject. And the bride is so upset that she will not move forward and wants a do-over. Giving tips before you see the final service in action is not normal behavior as a customer. To be safe, it’s better to wait until you come back to assess all the vendors and give tips only to those who went above and beyond the call of duty.