Thursday Weddings?

It would depend how close I was to the couple. That is almost an automatic time off work even for locals. How many out of town guests do you have, and do you care if they can make it or not?

Yeah, it's cheaper- there are reasons. If your guests don't work 9-5 M-F (say if they're in entertainment), then the usual scheduling doesn't apply and you might be able to get away with it. Otherwise, go for it and I'm sure the ones you love most will be there if they can, but expect many more No's from your wider circle of invitees.

I have attended two Thursday weddings. One was relatively local, so it wasn't that bad, but it was annoying that the venue was 45 minutes out of the city, so driving home at nearly midnight on a weeknight with a 45 minute drive was rough. It also wasn't a picnic trying to get down there in rush hour traffic in time for what I think was a 5 or 5:30 ceremony. I'd consider a more convenient location for a Thursday wedding so your guests can get there easily after work and so they won't have a long drive at the end of the night. The longer the drive home, the more inclined your guests will be to leave early if they have work or school the next day.

The other Thursday wedding I attended was on the other side of the country. I made the trip because it was family, but as an OOT guest, it pretty much took up my entire week. It was my cousin's wedding and one of our other cousins was not able to take the time off from work. Know that as badly as your OOT guests may want to to come, getting to a Thursday wedding might just not happen.

I'd recommend talking to your families and your closest friend who you know you absolutely want there and ask them how they would feel about you having a Thursday wedding. Ask if that's something they'd be able to attend. If they're on board, go for it. If some can't swing it, then you know you have to make a decision between having the people there that you want and having your wedding on a Thursday.

Attending a Thursday wedding would depend on how close I was to the couple.

If I were in your position, I'd ask my immediate friends and family if this was something they could swing. if so, go for it. If they have reservations, reconsider.

Agree with PP, it would depend on how close I was. Weekday weddings are cheaper, however the turnout is so tricky. As Susan stated most people work M-F 9-5's and it may be hard for people to get off. If you don't mind a lot of possible "can't make it" then go for it, but if there are OOT guest you would love to be there I would reconsider.

I know so many people who don't work a typical Monday-Friday 9-5 anyways, so I think you just have to use your best judgment. I'm going to a Thursday wedding soon, and I wouldn't miss it. I'm a little frustrating that I'll either have to take off two days instead of one, or rush home and go to work exhausted Friday, but it is what it is and I understand the reasoning.

Personally, I know of 5 weddings I'm invited to this year. Most of them I could justify taking any day off for. One couple is FH's distant cousin and if they are a day that is inconvenient or expensive for me, I'll decline. The rest are close to me and I'll make anything work. I work some weekends too, so either way, attending a wedding is time consuming and expensive. Those who want to be there will likely be there.

I would have to be very close to the person to attend a Thursday wedding.

I would be less likely to attend if I had to travel. Also be prepared that local guests will likely leave early if they have to work the next day. Don't take it personally if the reception winds down early.

If given enough advance time to schedule time off and it were local, yes i would. i have. it might be more difficult, if not impossible, for guests out of state, however.

If it was local, I would attend, but wouldn't stay late because my day starts about 5 am. I wouldn't travel for a Thursday wedding unless I was really close to the bride or groom.

If it was local and we weren't close I'd go. If it was a best friend or family member's wedding I'd be there and schedule time off. If I had to drive more than an hour, I probably would decline. Make sure to ask your families and closest friends you can't imagine the day without then go from there.

It would have to be over 6 months in advance for me due to work schedule. If i had kids it would be really hard so maybe better in summer when they are out if school.

I had a Thursday wedding, on a non holiday weekend, we sent out save the dates to our OOT guests 9 months in advance. We had 220 n our guest list, 40 out of the country who weren’t going to attend any day of the week. We had 165 attend. Most of our other declines were third cousins, who also live OOT, that we aren’t close with anyway. Our evening started at 630 and ended at 1130. I didn’t really notice too many people leaving early.

I get limited vacation time and love to travel, so I already have my days off for 2018 and most of 2019 planned out. So personally it would have to be someone I am very close to for me to be willing to attend a Thursday wedding and even so it would be hard for me to finagle (would likely have to take an unpaid day off). Personally I am not a huge fan of Friday weddings, so I am really not a fan of Thursday's.

It’s a lot to ask someone to take off of work and possibly interfere with school schedules. Most weeknights for families are structured and a wedding during the week is very inconvenient. If they don’t take off of work they might arrive late and/or leave early. I’m not a fan of Friday or Sunday weddings for the same reason. You spend so much money for your guests to enjoy themselves so you might as well plan it on a day that allows them to

I’d probably only attend if it was relatively local & the ceremony started later than the norm to account for work/commute/traffic. Thursday would mean taking a half day at work and probably taking off Friday entirely. If I’m taking at least 1.5 days off of work to attend your wedding there had better be a decent open bar.

Depends how close I am with the couple, but chances are I wouldn't attend. My FSIL was supposed to get married on a Thursday in Florida while the rest of us live in PA. I wasn't taking off for that, and luckily the wedding was called off (whole other story). I know it's to save money, but it's inconsiderate to have it on a weekday.

We're planning a Monday wedding. Super unconventional, but our wedding will also have about 80 people. The venue is about a 30-60 minute drive for most of our guests. I feel like with enough notice(save the dates!) people will be able to take one day, or even a half day off. I think it'd be nice to have EVERYONE we love attend, but at the end of the day, it's about the love we share with each other.

I am a sped teacher and if the wedding was in the summer or during a break I would go for sure!! If it was during the school year and we had to travel or stay out late it would depend on how close we were to the couple. Family? Of course. Distant relative? Probably not.

Only if it was for my best friend or my sibling.

I am having my wedding on a Thursday. We are saving nearly 10,000$ by doing so and we are sending out our save the dates 11 months in advance so people have plenty of time to plan! Also we are doing late ceremony (6:00) to ensure people can attend after work.