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Just Said Yes April 2019

Thursday Wedding

Amber, on February 20, 2018 at 8:07 AM Posted in Planning 0 19

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Hello to all!

I need some advice! Originally we planned for a Saturday wedding. But....yesterday I went to tour a venue with my mom, and of course after we finished touring the venue we discussed pricing. As we all know weekday weddings (Monday-Thursday) are half the price of a Saturday wedding. I had never thought nor heard of a Thursday Wedding....but after conversing with both my mom and staff at the venue made me think mmmm.... A Thursday Wedding may not be so bad after all. Here is the thing my fiancé has family coming from Detroit so they would drive/fly in a day before, and I have some family that would be driving at the most 45 mins to our ceremony.

So my question to you is:

If you were invited to a Thursday wedding at about 7pm would you come?

1. If your local
2.If you were out of state! And had to fly/drive in on a Wednesday
3. If you had to drive at the most 45 mins to the ceremony

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Latest activity by Alexandra, on January 25, 2020 at 9:43 PM

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Forestwed · on February 20, 2018 at 8:11 AM
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From out of state, no unless it was a really great friend/relative. People who have limited time off wouldn’t want to take Wednesday thru friday. A drive more than 30 minutes is too much. If I was local, I would leave the reception early for work the next day.
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MaryEllen · on February 20, 2018 at 8:15 AM
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Only if I was local.
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Just Said Yes September 2018
Aaliyah · on February 20, 2018 at 8:19 AM
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We dealt with this same thing. And our family told us to do what we wanted to, because those who love us and want to be there will show up and ultimately if you pick Thursday for budget reasons you wedding count will go down most likely. But we were leaning more towards Sunday than Thursday. Because people could travel over the weekend and then fly out Monday which is usually cheaper anyway.

And to be honest if I was local or had less than an hour drive I would go but flying and having to take extra time off I would only do that for close family.

We ended up still choosing a Saturday because every person in going to have to drive/fly but we moved our date to the a date the venue had discounts in (low season) which helped but also cut 2.5 months out of our original planning time.
Good Luck!
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Savvy October 2018
Maggie · on February 20, 2018 at 8:27 AM
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I would only come if I was super close with the couple.

People who are traveling are going to have to take at least two days off of work, and people who are local aren't going to have as much fun knowing that they have work the next day. It may be cheaper, but I think you are going to lose a lot from the experience. It may be worth it to try a different time of year or a different venue.
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Tracey · on February 20, 2018 at 8:28 AM
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If I would have flown in for a weekend wedding, I'd fly in for a week day wedding too. But, for me, I'd want to make sure that someone was there to greet me or to at least spend time with me while I wait for the wedding.
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firstoneat56 · on February 20, 2018 at 8:31 AM
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If you were my close family or friend, Iwould make it my business to be there even if it was a Monday. If we weren’t that close, Is probably come if I were local. If I was 45 minutes away, I might come by for a short while. I think a Thursday wedding is a big inconvenience for travelers as they have to take 3 days off from work, which is s lot to ask.
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lindseybee89 · on February 20, 2018 at 8:32 AM
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Local and close to couple, like super close to the couple.
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Going to the chapel · on February 20, 2018 at 8:38 AM
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1. Yes, but I'd leave early because, well, work the next day.
2. I'd come only if you were a close relative, but I'd be pissed that I had to use three days vacation to attend a wedding.
3. Yes, but I'd leave after dinner because, well, work t he next day.
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January 2019
MOB So Cal · on February 20, 2018 at 9:22 AM
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You'd have to be someone I was extremely close to (like a daughter, sister, absolute best friend), or I'd decline, even if it was "only" a 45 minute drive. On week days, I'm up at 4 am, and definitely in bed no later than 9:30; a wedding that didn't start until 7 pm, and I'd have a 45 minute drive home? I'd be looking to leave no later than 9....
As a pp mentioned, have you talked with your venue options about "off-season" discounts? We're in So Cal, and daughter's dream venue gave her a January Saturday night for the Sunday price -- about 1/3 off. It doesn't hurt to ask. Good luck!
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Powers2 · on February 20, 2018 at 9:34 AM
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1. If I felt close to the couple, yes
2. If I felt close to the couple, yes
3. If I felt close to the couple, yes

I think Thursday weddings are fine IF you adjust your expectations a bit. Have a bit of a thick skin because some people will complain, and some people will not come. That is OK. The people that love you will come, even if they grumble a little bit. We are getting married on a Friday at 6:30 pm and I have gotten some comments about even that day/ time.
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Super July 2018
Brittany · on February 20, 2018 at 9:58 AM
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I highly recommend sending save the dates a year in advance if you do decide on the Thursday wedding, most guests will have to take a vacation day or two, so you want to catch them before they make plans to use up their days.
To answer your questions.... If I had a 9-12 months notice I would go if I was local or a few hours drive away. If I had to fly in, I'd definitely want a years notice, and I'd be willing to go. If I only had a few months notice, chances are I'd have plans to use my vacation days already and would only attend it if was a SUPER close family member that I'd be willing to change my plans for.
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Elizabeth · on February 20, 2018 at 10:53 AM
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A weekday wedding starting at 7 p.m. is too late, in my opinion. Are you planning to serve dinner? Considering most people work on Fridays, eating dinner that late would be a big inconvenience. I would probably only go if it was family, even if I was local.
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Denise · on February 20, 2018 at 11:57 AM
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Absolutely!!! FH and I attended a Monday wedding in NYC (we live in FL) this past July. It was FHs cousins wedding. I would absolutely make accommodations with work to be there. I would honestly take Wednesday through Friday off if I had to travel and just made a whole trip out of it! Now if we weren't very close, then I'd probably skip it. But if we are decently close (we don't have to be BFF, but at least good friends or cousins or something) I will definitely be there and I will absolutely NOT leave early. If I was local I'd just take Thursday and Friday off to ensure I could drink and dance all night long!
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Devoted January 2019
S · on February 20, 2018 at 3:16 PM
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1. yes
2. probably only for a life-long best friend or immediate family. Otherwise no.
3. I live in a city and don't have a car, but would be fine with 45 mins if there was public transit or if I could get a ride with another guest.
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June 2018
RPMOB18 · on February 20, 2018 at 4:52 PM
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1. Yes
2. No
3. Yes
I think a Thursday wedding would be most inconvenient for most of your guests. I would look for a different venue and choose either Friday night or Sunday afternoon/evening if more affordable.
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Vanessasaurus · on February 20, 2018 at 9:45 PM
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Thursday is pretty rough. We are doing a Friday wedding because it saved us a few thousand, and we are starting late so people can just leave work a little early. I would go to a local or 45 min away Thursday weddding but I wouldn't be happy about waking up early the next day for work. I don't think I would go unless I was really close with the person if it was out of town. You are literally asking those people to take 3 days off from work.
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Dedicated November 2018
mimi · on February 20, 2018 at 10:19 PM
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No. I would not come to your wedding at 7pm on Thursday even if it was local. First of all, I'm not taking off work on Thursday and or Friday- that would cost me $400 in lost wages. I'm not going to take a financial hit to accommodate your wish for a bargain wedding. If I came after work, that would mean fighting traffic to get home and change, then fighting traffic again to rush to your venue [I don't even know if this would be possible in my area], then being there until at least 10pm, probably 11 or twelve-ugh, no. I would however LOVE to go to your wedding at a much cheaper venue Sunday morning or afternoon though. If you want an evening wedding, you need to do a Friday or Saturday. If you want your guests to enjoy themselves, taking consideration of THEIR time is preferable to which venue is fancier. You need good company and good food-you can provide that in any venue.
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Alexandra · on January 25, 2020 at 9:43 PM
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I’m doing a Thursday wedding and so glad I did! A- it saves money and B- there’s other vendors that gave me a few since I had a weekday wedding- my videographer! I also feel that it’s nice because the people who love you will take off anyway, and still enjoy your wedding!
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