Diane
Just Said Yes July 2021

Thursday Wedding on 4th of July weekend

Diane, on January 1, 2020 at 8:13 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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7/1/2021 falls on a Thursday.


A wedding venue we toured proposed this date as a way to save money but still have the wedding in-season. I would so appreciate everyone’s candid thoughts. On a scale of 1 to annoying, how inconvenient would this be for you? Whether you were flying across the country or if you lived an hour away.
Thanks in advance!

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  • Future Mrs. A. 💍
    VIP November 2020
    Future Mrs. A. 💍 Online ·
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    I think it’s fine!! I think you should go through your guest list and weigh out the pros and cons for people— Work, travel, sitters etc then go from there!!
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    It depends how close I was to the couple honestly! You have to remember too though if your bridal party is coming in from out of town they’d probably need to take off 3 days (Wednesday-Friday) for the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner which I’m assuming would be Wednesday?


    I’d just check with your VIPs before booking anything. Your best friends and closest family. I mean, you’re giving like 18 months notice so theoretically most people should be able to work their vacation days around it. But just see if it’s a big deal for them and if not then go for it
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  • V
    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I think it would depend on my relationship with the couple getting married. One of my best friends is getting married on a Sunday. His wedding is 2 hours from where I live. I am going in late to work the next day. I think the people you need to take into consideration the most would be your bridal party. Generally, you have a rehearsal the day before so they would likely need to take off or leave work early on Wednesday (depending on the time and where they are traveling from) to attend that, then they would need to take off Thursday for your wedding, and then they would need off work Friday or to go in late on Friday. I would also take into consideration that it is the weekend before the Fourth of July so people may be under to get off work due to the holiday.

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    I agree about first thinking through your guest list and how likely this is to work for them, and then having very honest conversations with your VIPs about what they think -- and let them know you truly want their HONEST thoughts. Depending on where you live, 4th of July weekend can draw huge crowds, meaning transportation and lodging will likely both be very expensive and more difficult to book. If we were your close family/friends and had to travel for the wedding, we'd likely need to take off at least W-F, so we'd be looking at making a significant commitment of vacation time and $. Personally, I wouldn't pick a Thursday for a wedding, and I definitely wouldn't choose one during a holiday week, but that's because I wouldn't want to put guests in that position -- I know given our friends/family it would definitely be inconvenient. You'll likely receive responses to your post that tell you to go for it, "because those who truly love you will be there." I think that's misleading, people can love you, but not be able to afford to attend or use the vacation time. I'd think a lot about how you'll feel is people who are important to you have to decline because of timing issues. If it won't bother you, then it's likely an option to consider. Good luck planning!

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  • Watts
    Super March 2020
    Watts ·
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    I wouldn't do a holiday because people tend to view that as a vacation time, and we could all use more relaxation days. Plus holiday weeks can get very hectic for families. I would be annoyed at a holiday wedding.


    We are doing a Thursday wedding, too. We have 58 guests, a bunch of them work weekends, nights, mornings, weekdays. So regardless of what day it was people would miss work. We decided on the cheaper day for us since all of our guests live close.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    If within 1 hour drive, fine by me because we don’t travel over the holidays (too expensive and crowded). If an out-of-town wedding, nope. I’d reply “no.”
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Unless I was super close to the couple, or the wedding was within 30 minutes of my house, I would not attend a wedding on a Thursday.

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  • Rachel
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Rachel ·
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    I'm a college student (don't have a career yet) so it would be doable for me. However, I was thinking about doing a Thursday myself, but my dad (who does have a career) told me that no one would come. I think it could be possible if people knew more than half a year in advance and lodging prices weren't terrible, but I'm not certain. Then they would have time to reserve a place to stay and request time off of work well ahead of time.


    Also, my wedding party is mostly made up of college pals. I was noticing comments above noting rehearsal schedules. That's a good thing to keep in mind!

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  • Alexandra
    Devoted September 2020
    Alexandra ·
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    I am actually doing a Thursday wedding!! I think since it is the holiday week, many people will get off and make it an excuse to take that extra day off. When I told my guests it was on a Thursday, they had no problem with it. I would just tell people in advance it is on a Thursday, if you choose to book it
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  • Denise
    Devoted May 2019
    Denise ·
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    There’s no one I know who I’d go to their wedding on the Fourth of July, but they would still have a perfectly delightful day without me.
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  • Sherry
    Rockstar September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    Personally, I don't consider the 4th of July a significant holiday like Thanksgiving or Christmas in which I would be wanting to spend it with family so I would be fine with it if it was an hour away. I wouldn't fly across the country for any wedding that wasn't a really close relative, like a sibling or parent.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    We would go if we had enough notice but we usually plan holiday weekends 3-4 months out so I'd appreciate 10-12 months notice with a save the date for a holiday wedding especially on a Thursday.

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  • Jocelyn
    Savvy July 2020
    Jocelyn ·
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    My wedding is also on Thursday. For me, I chose what was best for my budget and whoever wants to come will be there if not that's less money I have to spend. I know the people most important to my husband and I will be there and that's all that matters. We are also having an evening ceremony and reception to dim some of the annoyance with traffic and all.

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