Thursday Wedding! Invitation & rsvp Help!

Do you plan on sending save the date cards? If yes, then send those out 9 months before. As for invites you should send them 4 months to get a good RSVP turn around time of 2 months before. Especially if you need a final count 1 month before. This should give enough time for your guests to start considering on what they should do so they can start thinking of options. Such as if they need to call off work, book hotels, save financially, find babysitters, etc.

Makes sense! I didn't do save the dates either for the same reason. I kept my wedding a little hush hush because we only had 50 people in total at the wedding, but the family and friends that did know about it totally understood especially everything going on with COVID.

Sending wedding invitations 6 months in advance is just going to be a larger headache for you. They will get lost, people will put them aside and forget (not the wedding, but to rsvp). Many people won't know if they can commit that far out. They won't know whats happening with Covid etc... Honestly, I truly think this will wind up more work and aggravation than its worth. I would let people who are invited the date (either by a save the date, email, text , phone call etc... around 6 months out) I would send the invitations at 10 weeks with an rsvp date of 5 weeks before wedding. Gives you one week to contact anyone you haven't heard from yet.

You can give people the heads up if you'd like. That way they can start thinking about making travel arrangements, taking time off, etc. Then when the wedding invites come in that's when they can start booking stuff. You can send the invites about 3 months beforehand. Give them a month to RSVP. Then use that last month to finalize the count with your venue. Or even what PP said about 10 weeks and then 5 weeks. But just make sure to follow the timeline you need because you mentioned that the venue needs a final count one month prior to the big day.