Throwing your own bachelorette party

I'm doing it cuz i'm a picky control freak and I know what I want.

I'm ordering the invites, setting the date, and making the invite list.

I don't think it's rude, but it's a shame that no one is throwing you one. Have you asked/mentioned? Keep in mind, your wedding is very far away. Mine is in March, and although my sister is planning it, the details haven't been nailed down yet.

I don't think it's rude, but it's a shame that no one is throwing you one. Have you asked/mentioned? Keep in mind, your wedding is very far away. Mine is in March, and although my sister is planning it, the details haven't been nailed down yet.

I'm doing it because I'm particular, I like to be in control, and I have the best idea ever that my girls are going to love!! My maid of honor is "throwing it" but I'm behind the scenes pulling all the strings.

See I have a different outlook on my bridal party who may I add are my closest friends and family. The only thing I expect of them is to be there on my wedding date and when I'm on the verge of freaking out to calm me down. All this party stuff and planning a shower is really not important IMO... It's hard now a days especially with people not being able to afford a lot... Take a deep breath maybe they are surprising you... It is your wedding your suppose to be in it on your own... Good luck doll chin up!! Don't think negative!

Ugh this is one of those "etiquette" things I don't get. I guess I get why throwing your own bridal shower is rude, because you're throwing a party for the sole purpose of getting presents, but I don't see why it would be rude to throw your own bach party. I "threw" my sister's a few years back when I was MOH but she is so freaking particular that she told me exactly what she wanted. I didn't mind at all, and I don't think anyone saw it as rude.

FH & I have talked about potentially throwing a joint one a few days before the wedding. A lot of our bridal party is from out of town and I'd hate to ask them to travel multiple times. So we're talking about just renting a party bus a few days before and going that route. I don't care if anyone thinks that's rude.

Lori - That sounds like a good idea! Our wedding is out of state and a lot of people would be traveling to attend as well so...

I don't really 'expect' anything from anyone except for emotional support or even for them to pretend to be interested. I think deep down we all want that whole "wedding" experience which is why I was kicking around the idea of throwing my own bp.

I didn't necessarily throw my own but i basically planned it all myself. My MOH was leaving everything to the last minute so i just took over otherwise it would have upped the cost for everybody else and it already ended up being more than it should have been if it was planned in enough time ahead.

We went to Vegas, did some clubbing, lots of drinking and went to a pin up show. I basically gave them suggestions of what would be cool and they just had me pick whatever i wanted to do. Sometiimes you just ahve to step up to the plate if the job isn't being done. It freaking sucks but oh well.

I don't think bachelorette are rude to throw for yourself but a shower would be. Also, don't stress about it just yet. You still have quite a bit of time for them to plan the bachelorette. Most of my friends and I don't start planning the bachelorette until about 2 months before the wedding.

A shower is rude but I don't think a bachelorette is. It's a party. What sucks is that because you're throwing it, you'll have to shell out money for your drinks and stuff!

My sisters threw my shower, but weren't going to do a bachelorette, I got lucky and my FMIL, FSIL, and Futher aunt-in-law, got together and took me out on the town. They were super sweet.

However, your wedding is still a ways away. Someone my surprise you. Just like my FMIL did me. Mine was a last minute thing. It was planned like, one month before I had it (which was last weekend)

FH didn't have a Best Man, and one of his friends still happened to ask if anyone was throwing him a bachelor party and ended up throwing it for him. Again, a very last minute thing.

I'm going to help plan mine. It'll be the night before, and in an area no one is really familiar with. And I'll probably help with FHs bc his brother doesn't know the area either lol.

Throwing your own bachelorette is fine.

Shower, maybe not so much (then again, I've personally never heard of throwing a bridal shower round these parts.)

I am in the same boat. I planned my own bachlorette party and no one was offended. I had no help from my MOH or BM in planning. I actually got into ahuge fight with one a few days ago and she will not be attending. I was very depressed and upset at first becasue I felt like no on cared. But it is about me and my FH, and that is all that matters. Plan you party do what you want and have fun and enjoy this time with your FH

Etiquette pretty much says not to throw your own, if noone pay for it, don't have it. I think that's bull. People pay and plan their own birthday parties, holiday parties. With those do we not expect gifts, or contributions (such as potluck food or contribute to the bar). So I will never understand what makes a Bach party so special that you can't throw it yourself. It's just another type of party.

I planned my own. My bf planned her own. It makes things easier because you know who you want and what you want.

Thanks ladies... I appreciate it! I know its still a ways out but honestly I don't have a lot of time as I am a student and working along with trying to plan this wedding solo so I have to try to get things done when I have a free moment. Also, I highly doubt anyone is planning to surprise me with one but I don't want to wait until the last minute to pose the idea or start planning as the price for things will start to go up.

I didn't really understand why people were stuck on calling others rude for planning their own because I see it the same way as most of you do. Its just like any other party you'd plan yourself.. I wouldn't ask or even expect gifts so I don't see the problem either.

I would've killed to plan my own bachelorette party! Seriously! But my BM (the one that I regretted asking to be one) wouldn't let me and I ended up hating most of it. The only good part of it was that because it was a destination party, another friend of mine and I went a day early and she did all the stuff that I really wanted with me.

I did it. My bridal party couldn't get it together so I took over. It was amazing. We just had it last weekend & all of us are still recovering. There were strippers & butlers & burlesque dancers and unnecessarily large amounts of alcohol. Its your party!! Plan it how you want to!!!

In my opinion, you can do it however you want to! I'm not having a party, so much as a weekend girls getaway in Nashville (that was one of my BMs idea, but I loved it!). I am an accidental control freak; I don't mean to be, it just happens. I love planning and organizing stuff like that, so I know nothing it left out. I will be planning the basics of the trip, and I know my girls will have mischievous activities planned once we get there! Bottom line - this is the 21st century, nothing is traditional anymore. If you want to throw your own party, DO IT! At least then you'll know it will be exactly what you want!

Im throwing my own bp. my MOH is so incredibly busy she will barely have time to plan a shower, and my bridesmaids have their own issues, so im just planning my own and mentally preparing myself now for the very real and very possible outcome of nobody showing up to it.