Thoughts on “rules To Attend My Wedding” video?

I just realized the article did not have part two of her list. Here is a link to both videos


https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/wedding-rules-list-tiktok-b2004562.html?amp

I personally love rule #11 and will be following this one our wedding!

Personally it seems like a lot. lol like why tell people you’re not doing a garter thing… just don’t do it. I feel like her attitude is the worst part of this video though.

It's kind of entitled. Also why does the sexual orientation of her wedding party need to be announced? Like, who cares?

View Quoted Comment Yeah, I was wondering the same thing about that one. Thought that was kind of strange 🤔

The whole thing just seems odd to me because I feel like none of those things are as big of a deal as she makes them? I mean I feel like nearly all of them are things that either are common or are becoming more common. Also, how is your bridal party being LGBT+ a rule when it was pretty much a happy accident? None of these things really seem like something you need to tell your guests as a rule.

Other than how specific we're kind of forced to have to be about kids invited (we do not have room in our venue for every single distant relative's kids), I don't think we actually have any set "rules" that either of us care about. I'd love if people don't wear jeans or white, but I'm not going to kick someone out if they do. We're not doing some traditional stuff like the garter or bouquet toss, but I don't see that as a rule, I guess.

Most of the rules are normal or expected, but her delivery was pretty poor lol. (And I do kind of agree with the garter thing.. when people do it, I look away awkwardly lol)

I agree that her tone was a bit entitled. But honestly I am doing most of the things on the list besides #7 (like y’all already said, my bridesmaids sexual orientation is not important), and #8 (my mom leave everything to me). And no, I will not do a video like this…most of these that involve guests are common sense.

I find the whole thing, mainly the way she presented it, to be... well gross. We're doing a joke rules page on our website (with things like, "must re-learn the Macarena for 90s one hit wonder power hour" and "centerpieces will be given out Royal Rumble style, so carb up!") with the occasional "real" rule (such as, be "out by 10! cause that's when the party is over and we get kicked out of the venue"...) but nothing thats really serious.

Its all family and friends we are inviting, I shouldn't have to give them "rules" to follow to be at my wedding. That's asking for disappointment because someone didn't "follow" them. I would hope that none of my guests try and outshine us at our own wedding by making some major announcement, that just seems tacky and gauche as all get out. Asking your guests to adhere to a set of rules to be at your celebration feels too micromanage-y to me. The planning and day itself is already a LOT, there's no reason to make it harder on yourself and your guests.

I would be very hesitant to attend a wedding that had a list of rules like that. Some of them make sense, others not so much.

I actually don’t mind this idea but I think I would come across a lot more welcoming. I would probably do this to remind people to be vaccinated and to inform them of other small details that will make attending our wedding more comfortable and exciting.

That was so painful to watch. Very poor entitled delivery and I didn’t think they were necessary. People in general have attended social events including weddings so they do know to act in public. Having the extra rules and the entitled behavior that comes with it is why people don’t like brides. In cases like this, it’s not the guests who are rude.


This reminds me of a post not terribly long ago on Reddit where bridesmaids were given a contract they must sign with extreme rules that allow the bride to dictate every aspect of their lives for 12 months before the wedding until the wedding day and the bridesmaids are no better than slaves, from don’t get pregnant, don’t lose or gain weight, don’t alter your appearance, don’t move out of state, don’t make friends with other people, etc. The caveat was that if you didn’t agree with even one of the rules then consider the friendship ended. It’s truly amazing that people like that have friends unless everyone is equally hostile and judgmental.

View Quoted Comment I think I saw that story somewhere online also! It was appalling!

View Quoted Comment A 90s one hit wonder power hour is the greatest thing I have ever heard of

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Thanks! We're both children of the 80s and 90s so its our literal jam!