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Savvy December 2020

Thoughts on rounds of invitations?

Lindsey, on September 13, 2020 at 2:48 PM Posted in Planning 0 4

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Due to Covid, we had to cut down our list due to the new capacity limit we have to comply with. We have a lot of family members that live out of town and some have voiced they may not be coming now because of the pandemic. We are 14 over the amount we have to cut it down to. But we want to know where we’ll be at after our family members give us a set rsvp. Our coordinator told us instead of cutting 14 people, we should send the first round to strictly family members out of town and based on their rsvp’s, send out the rest of the invitations. Of course we know that not all people we invite are going to be able to make it; however, I’d feel horrible if we ended up being over the limit. So we’ve also been advised maybe we should just send them all at once. I don’t know what to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated. And to be clear, I don’t have “b-listers” it was just a recommended route to take since we would have to take people off who we wanted to be at our wedding 🙁

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Latest activity by Leslie, on September 13, 2020 at 10:11 PM

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Melle · on September 13, 2020 at 2:49 PM
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Could you just ask people first before you send invites? Like just have a convo with people wondering their likelihood of being able to come
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Jana · on September 13, 2020 at 2:55 PM
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A and B lists? Don't do it because people do find out and get offended even if they never say a word to you. Make one guest list. Send out one round of invites. If you get declines, you have a smaller guest count and you don't 'fill seats' after the fact.
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Chelsea · on September 13, 2020 at 6:05 PM
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I have heard that A list and B list is usually frowned upon but I think under these circumstances it is valid (personal opinion). We had to remove 80 people from our guest list and plan to send them an apology invite with a link to our live stream. However, we are waiting a little bit to see how many "no's" we receive with the original RSVPs. We ordered extra invites in case we are actually able to include some of the people we had to remove. We just mailed our invites/RSVPs and will wait a few weeks and see if there is any wiggle room. You have to know your crowd though.. So far we have encountered nothing but love and understanding in the choices we've had to make. So I think do what feels right to you and do it as genuinely and with as good as intensions possible. People will most likely understand and this is all new territory to us! When in doubt, just be upfront and honest. Good luck!
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Leslie · on September 13, 2020 at 10:11 PM
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It’s doubtful you would know that quickly. My RSVPs are due this Friday and I am still missing about half of them. Even those who know their not coming don’t bother.
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