Thoughts On Paying for Hotel for a Bridesmaid gift?

Hi Shelby! Are their significant others or dates coming to the wedding with them? I love the idea of paying for their accommodations, but it can get complicated with SOs! Where would they stay, and wouldn't they want to spend the night with their SO?

Are there lodges or a villa or something you could rent for all of them?

@WWLynnie as SOON as I posted this, I thought of that! As of right now, three of my BM's are single, one is getting married at the end of this month. That does complicate things! I could look into renting a house for the night, though I'm afraid that just might be out of my budget.

I am paying for a suite the night before and inviting bridesmaids to stay over. The hair stylist will be coming to our hotel that morning and any girls are welcome to use their services, but not required. I have girls that are staying at the hotel for the wedding night also, they just plan on staying in the suite with me and then checking into their own room for the wedding night. I think as long as you make the hair stylist optional, this makes sense! But I also am buying them a thank you gift in addition to this - I think this is more "trying to be logistical and paying for convenience of having BMs in same place"

ETA mine isn't a destination but two BMs are college friends and don't live close, my FH offered to have them stay at our house the night before with the guys.

If the house isn't in your budget but the hotel is, let them know your situation and if they would like to bring someone along, you all could chip in together and rent the house or you will provide the suite just for you guys.

@brieliz I love that idea, I have a hair stylist coming over to the venue we're we'll get ready in the bridal suite. But if they have dates, they'll really end up paying for half of a room that they didn't sleep in that night. I guess I'll have to wait until we get closer to the day and see if they all will bring dates. I hope they will in a way, it's not fun to go to a wedding stag!

I invited my BMs to stay in my suite with me the night before the wedding,but I'm not including it in their gift. Those with SOs will likely stay with them, and that's fine.

I am having my bridesmaids stay with me at our venue suite the night before. 2 live out of town and I thought it would be easier to have them all there so they didn't have to worry about traveling the next day. I'm not including this as a gift, however I'm not having a destination wedding either. Maybe if you do pay for it get them something small? a personalized wine glass or something cute but not too expensive.

When my MOH got married, I was her MOH and she had a destination wedding. Her parents paid for us to stay the night before and then she got us all little gifts.

Its nice to offer! But that definitely does not count as a gift

It's a nice gesture but not a gift. Nor is hair. You still need to get them something. Shop like you would for their birthday. (If it's for your "vision" it's not a gift. For example: robes, hair, nails, etc)

Unpopular opinion: I totally disagree with the 'its not a gift' thing. Weddings are expensive, being IN a wedding is even more expensive. I would rather a bride do what she can to help save me some money than get a monogrammed makeup bag and a pair of earrings. I'm sure they would be great...but I don't need a monogrammed makeup bag and I have plenty of earrings. I would rather save the money.

@FutureKL I'm just curious what you're getting/paying for your bridesmaids?

Yeah, massive update, this is not their only *gift.* Not sure where that came from. They are each getting something personalized that they would love, a monogrammed robe, and a personalized tote bag full of goodies.

Personalized as in, my MOH is also a journalist, and she collects antique typewriters. I've already bought her another one for her collection. Those kind of things.

I think this is a great idea. We paid for the night before the wedding for each of our bp members to stay at the hotel. We made the second night optional, but they all stayed since we had an after party. One of my bms said she loved that we did that rather than hair, since the hotel was more expensive. I still gave them small gifts as well. I made hair optional and therefore their cost.

If it's in your budget to rent the suite, go for it. I've known brides who have done the suite thing. The bms with SOs choose to get a room with the SO for the night. Not sure where they actually slept though.

@RJmargo Honestly, I love the idea too. I called my mom to make sure she didn't want to spend the night with me before the wedding. I have my hair stylist coming to venue to do my hair, and honestly what he quoted me, I could get a suite cheaper for that, and then they have the option to pay him for their hair. I think that's what I'm going to end up doing.