Thoughts on inviting friends from high school?

Nooooope! I absolutely wouldn't invite the HS friends I never see or the ones I haven't talked to in years. Only close friends that I still care about are getting invited to my wedding, personally.

I would definitely not invite them if I were in your situation. Unless you just want it to be a big party and have more people. I only want people at my wedding that we are actually close to.

Not happening here. I don't talk to anyone from HS we all went in different directions. My best friend from HS got married a few years ago, I wasn't invited so I don't see the need to invite anyone. My college friends will be there because we are still close (most of them are in my bridal party).

I really wouldn’t. I’m inviting ppl who are dispersed but I still talk and keep in touch regularly with them.

I would only invite the high school friends I hang out with in a regular basis, or keep in actual regular contact with, if we live far away (ie, I don’t have to have flown out to visit them, but, if we’re only communicating via Facebook post comments...no way)

I wouldn't invite someone to my wedding who I wouldn't ask out to dinner on a normal night. I think the real question here is...why would you invite them?

Nope. If you haven't talked to them in the last 6 months-1 year, I wouldn't invite them. If you talk to them regularly, but haven't gotten to hang out, yes. Even if it was in my hometown - I still wouldn't invite 99% of my HS friends. I think I'm inviting one to my wedding in May from HS because we do still chat some and such. More people, more money.

I am not inviting past friends or acquaintances. We are only inviting those who are genuinely important to us and even that has the guest list at 150! No need for extras!

Nope, I invited those I was close to right now. I (nor my family) had the money to invite all 500 people I have considered "friends" throughout my life. If you aren't in it now you weren't invited to my party happening now.

I didn't invite anyone if I hadn't seen or spoken to them in the last year. Weddings are expensive enough as it is. No need to invite people just because you were friends a long time ago

We only invited friends we still have activ relationships with. It even some college friends didn't make the cut. A wedding is something you share with nearest and greatest (and family), not a place to reconnect with peopld

Only invite people you have an active and currently close friendship with! You don't want to waste money on inviting someone that you might not even speak to again after the wedding

I only invited those I had kept up with on a regular basis, and a few " hometown kids" I barely knew in high school, but got to be good friends with when we were in the same city for college, work and grad school. Even those I did not see often, 3-5 times a year, with no interruptions unless I was in the Army and too far away. Despite the fact that we were at least a 4 hour drive from each other, we would each haul ourselves across the distance at least twice a year just to see each other, not counting when we went to see family in hometown . Somehow that said to me, enduring friendship, we care enough to stay connected, and pick up where we left off, stronger each visit than before. Where some of people closest in HS or before were a matter if circumstance and our activities then. But no common interests now. The ones who were casual acquaintances only while in school, maybe a couple years older or younger, I had and still have more in common with, than those I hung out with when younger. . . The only reason I can think of to invite any particular ones, not all, is if you have often thought, I wish I had not let it go so long that our friendship drifted away. And so with a wedding invitation, you enclose a note, saying that, and that you would like yo start seeing each other as friends, again. Rekindling a friendship, because you want a future as friends, is worth doing. Otherwise, don't bother.

If they are not part of your life now, there is no reason to invite them to your wedding. Sorry, I feel this way about relatives too. If they are not part of your life or immediate family. Nope. That is a waste of budget money that you could use on other things you want.

Thank you everyone! We have been trying our best to keep our numbers of invited friends even between us too. If budget / space weren't an issue, we could invite more people. I'd rather put the money elsewhere and feel that everyone there was a "must have" for my wedding day.

I wouldn't invite them. I graduated high school five years ago and am only inviting a few from my class, but we get together regularly and stayed close all throughout college. Something that helped me decide on who was getting an invite was based on whether or not it would feel awkward to have a conversation with these people at our wedding. Chances are if I haven't talked to them in 3 years, the conversation would feel very forced when it came time to catching up or thanking them for coming to the wedding which would just make everyone feel weird.

If you hope to rekindle their friendship, this could be a great opportunity to! I'm in this current situation now where I'm struggling to decide, but I'm probably going to go ahead and take the initiative. Distancing happens naturally and isn't anyone's fault. People just get caught up in things they're doing, I'm sure they didn't all one day decide they didn't want to be your friend anymore. IMO it's better to put yourself out there than shut yourself away for fear of rejection.

I’m honestly not inviting a single person I went to high school with.

Only invite the people you still have a relationship with and want to be at your wedding. I've got maybe 2-3 people from HS that I am inviting but it is only because I am still in contact with them.

I strongly considered inviting friends from HS but I haven’t talked to them in years... it’s kind of unfortunate but now I live across the country from them and I would hate for them to have to spend thousands of dollars to attend, only for us to not have much to say to each other.... I think you just have to weigh the decision in terms of how much you want to see someone in person vs just checking their social media to see what their lives have been like since you last saw them....? Or budget - if you can afford to invite whoever you want, might as well! 😂