Thoughts on eloping?

Hi Vanessa!! In general the feedback I've heard is that guests have been really understanding if you need to downsize due to covid restrictions, but it's always nice if you can stream the wedding so they can watch it and virtually celebrate with you! ❤️

Here are a few discussions where other couples talked downsizing and suggested wording:

Scaling back wedding - help with wording for 'un-invites'?

Covid “uninvitation”

You are uninvited letter

I think eloping is a great idea! I wish we had decided to elope. I'm not the first granddaughter/niece to get married, but I am the first born of over 30 grandkids. My family really wanted me to have a big event so they could celebrate with me and I caved. But in times of COVID, this has not been a fun planning.

So, if you can elope now and celebrate later, I think that's the way to go. Celebrate later when you can have the kind of celebration you really want.

Good luck!

I don’t live in Hawaii, but we’re eloping there in October. We postponed our Las Vegas wedding a year, then we moved the wedding to San Diego (where we live) and last week I asked FH if we can just elope in Hawaii, since the Honeymoon is already booked there. Hopefully they’ll still let in travelers because I am so ready to get this over with and live the newlywed life.


So on Wednesday we sent cancellation notices to everyone. We’re going from 70 guests to zero guests…. Just us!!! We thought about scaling it down to 25 people and just having dinner afterward. But, it was too difficult to narrow down the guests. But now I feel SO relieved because it was becoming too much to worry about. I started to fear that people wouldn’t show up and we we’d waste our money. So, FH and I plan to have a celebration for our first anniversary.
After going through everything, I support elopements 100%. So I say… Go for it! I have this really strong feeling that afterward, I’m going to wish I had done this from the start.