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Dedicated September 2018

Thoughts on bride and groom greeting each guest?

Pom, on August 22, 2018 at 2:50 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 53

It's an long held tradition that it's good manners for the bride and groom to greet and thank every guest at the wedding. Either with a receiving line or by making their rounds at the tables during dinner. For my wedding, my fiancé and I will get our food first and proceed to make our rounds to all...

It's an long held tradition that it's good manners for the bride and groom to greet and thank every guest at the wedding. Either with a receiving line or by making their rounds at the tables during dinner.

For my wedding, my fiancé and I will get our food first and proceed to make our rounds to all the tables and greet everyone personally. This was actually the one request my mother was very adamant about us doing at our wedding, because it's considered good manners. I agree that it's good manners, so we would have planned to do it anyway even if she hadn't mentioned it.

How do you feel about this tradition? Do you think it's necessary? Is it ungrateful or rude for the couple not to make an effort to briefly speak with each guest? Or do you think it's outdated and a thank you card after the fact is enough acknowledgement?

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    Savvy October 2018
    Elizabeth ·
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    I'm going to greet everyone after photos, during cocktail hour because once I sit down to eat it's game over. Party time. Anyone who wants to see me can see me on the dance floor! 😂
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    Just Said Yes July 2019
    Kari ·
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    I found having a receiving line right after the ceremony was the best option. This way you get to greet, speak and thank every guest. Then there isn't a lot of pressure to make sure you talk to everyone at the reception, but still mingle and talk with your guests there as well.
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  • latasha
    VIP September 2019
    latasha ·
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    I went to one wedding where the bride only went to some of the tables, the groom stayed on the dance floor and they kept leaving the reception to take pics. It was something that stuck in my head and guest so I plan to be a bit more conscious and make sure I make my rounds to the different tables. Also to get a photo at every table.
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  • C
    September 2020
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    People spend thousands of dollars in lost wages rental cars travel clothing gifts and hotels if a bride and groom did not come up and acknowledge me for being there even for five seconds they would never hear from me again
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  • C
    September 2020
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    How hard it is to walk around or have your wedding planner or MC or someone say the bride and groom will be circulating be sure to say hello to them so they don’t miss anyone they want to come to each table then it puts the onus on both parties to get in touch
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  • C
    September 2020
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    Recently went to a small rehearsal dinner with a bride did not even come over to the table to great senior adults who traveled to attend and Sam bride did not come and visit table of elderly people who gave the equivalent of a month Social Security or salary to them as a gift on top of their travel I thought it was despicable
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    Judith ·
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    First of all , you do not give a thank you card to all for coming, after the reception. You only write thank you notes for presents, immediately after the gift is received, which may be months before or after the wedding. ... This goes to general hosting. but If I thought I might not see and talk to the couple, guests of honor or hosts, I would not go to the wedding.
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    Super October 2022
    Michele ·
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    If the couple feels that greeting guests and thanking them for attending is a burden, they need to elope with no guests.
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    Master January 2022
    SLY ·
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    Def. necessary! Guests travel from near and far to celebrate a special moment with the couple. I would consider it rude to not acknowledge each guest and thank them for coming. Like most PP, I like the idea of the couple eating first then making rounds to each table. That's what my FH and I plan on doing. It ensures that we've met everyone at our wedding, and that they know we are grateful for them being there!

    We're also wanting to get a picture of us at every table. Whether that be with our photographer, or someone's phone!

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  • Milada
    Super October 2021
    Milada ·
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    My FH and I will be doing this. Some of his family members on the guest list I've never met so this will be a perfect opportunity to do so. We also have very dear friends and family on the list so showing our appreciation is a must.

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    Dedicated August 2020
    Q ·
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    I agree, it’s important and shows good manners. After the ceremony waiting to exit church we plan to but also planning to go to each table at the reception.
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  • C
    September 2020
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    I went to a wedding of my first cousin who only has about three living relatives on this side of the family the bride did not even say hello to us we had to walk over there and say hi to her on the dance her parents did not say hello to us her father acted like we didn’t exist from across the room it was the same at the rehearsal dinner
    They received $2000 from the two living relatives that were there and then the bride never bothered to say hello to us the next day at the farewell brunch but was busy talking to multiple neighbors and other people so we had never done anything wrong to them I guess their wealth looks down on regular people we didn’t know but we do know one thing we wrote them off we’re too far Along in life to be treated badly so they are being removed from our life insurance policy in our wills. I’m two elderly people travel far and barely get 30 seconds of a greeting it’s downright disrespectful and spoiled and it wasn’t a gigantic one medium size
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  • C
    September 2020
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    No one was talking about receiving a thank you card for attending if you recent bro see the above post it was about small rehearsal dinner and small wedding where the bride snubbed certain senior citizens but chatted incessantly
    With friends and neighbors and no one would expect but they would be snubbed therefore they would not be able to assess that they should not have gone in the first place
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