Thoughts on a "flower girl assistant"

I think have her and the small one be flower girls.

View Quoted Comment What do you think would be a good title for her? Just a flower girl? Or flower girl assistant? I don’t want her to think it’s lame because she’s 14...

Since the duties of a BM (or junior BM) imply she would be standing at the altar with you, I’d avoid the issue altogether and make her a flower girl guardian or flower girl attendant (or assistant) if you feel she is too old to be a flower girl. If not, then just make her a flower girl!

View Quoted Comment I think flower girl for both. She's young enough where shell probably love being dressed up regardless.

Explain to her what her role will be and ask what title she would like to be

Maybe you should ask her if she would even be willing to do that sort of thing. I think it’s a sweet idea, but personally I know when I was 14 I would have thought anything flower girl was meant for little kids. Not a teenager. If she feels that’s way then maybe you problem will be solved with her just declining. But she may very well be into the idea! It’s hard to include everyone on your special day and make everyone happy. Good luck!

FH & I have 2x small flower girls (2 & 3, or are my cousin & FH niece) in the wedding & FH brother really didn’t want the flower girls to walk down by themselves (a very funny incident happened to him when he was 4x & a ring bearer - he saw the crowd & ran as fast as he could down the aisle, the family still talks about it a bit). So I made my cousins son a junior groomsman & he is walking them down the aisle.

MMM, very interesting. If she is 14, she's a teenager. I would think it would be good to make her a junior bridesmaid. I've seen bridesmaids and jbs lead the young flower girls down the aisle with no issues! 14 seems too old for a flower girl. That's just my opinion!

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Yes, I agree with Amy. You should probably ask her what she would prefer to be!!

I think you should make her a junior bridesmaid. Being an "assistant" anything just seems to cheapen the role to me. I'm having my youngest niece be a flower girl and my oldest niece (who will be 10 by the wedding) be a junior bridesmaid. This way they both get meaningful roles. I'll leave it up to my oldest niece/junior bridesmaid if she wants to stand up front with everyone else.

I did this with my cousin at my aunts wedding. I pushed her in a stroller (she was like 1) down the aisle and she just called me a flower girl. I think calling her a flower girl would be totally fine.

View Quoted Comment A 14 year old girl may be offended by that.

I would do a JR BM. The photographer knows how to make pictures look good.

I would give her the Junior Bridesmaid title if you were planning on having her wear the same colors as your BMs or color scheme. In the programs you can have them both grouped in the centered at the bottom of your bridal party on the right and his groomsmen on the left.

I'm having two flower girls! One is 3 and one is 14! The 14 year old is excited that she gets to wear purple & get some new vans to match her dress!

Have you considered just leaving the parties uneven?

She is the perfect age for a junior bridesmaid. My goddaughter is 13 and we always said she would be a flower girl. I ended up asking her to be a junior bridesmaid and she’s so excited. She’ll still help the little ones, but have her own unique dress and bouquet. I think both are good options! You know her best!

You do not have to explain it to anyone. She is a junior bridesmaid, and has a separate job from other bridesmaids, walking with the flower girl then taking a seat. There is no rule that all bridesmaids stand at the altar . To give her a slightly different job, after taking a seat at the front, she can step forward to take the bride's bouquet ( instead of MOH holding her own and bride's) when the bride has arrived at the altar. Then sit again holding it. A bride's bouquet flower girl. I have seen this numerous times, instead of using a bouquet stand or MOH.

I don't see anything wrong with her being a flower girl. There's no age limit. I've seen people post on here about having a grandmother be their flower girl and just carry a couple flowers down. My daughter is 13 and she's my flower girl. I was going to have her be a bridesmaid but she made the comment about how she thought she was going to be the flower girl. She didn't care either way but it works out better if shes my flower girl

View Quoted Comment My fiances cousin is 14 and wanted to be flower girls with the little ones. So they could also think it's fun.