Those with older kids

The boys could be the ushers/greeters, and if you're having a wedding party, you could always include FH's daughter as a bridesmaid?

Our sons (23 & 29) will escort us each down the aisle and stand as our best men. Our future daughter-in-law will do a reading during our ceremony.

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That's a good idea for the boys. I'm not having a bridal party. Thought about asking FSD to read a passage at the wedding but she's very shy and might not feel comfortable. I think I'll ask her to get ready with us and pay for her to get hair/nails/makeup done with me (if she wants to of course).

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That sounds so lovely. I'm sure you are getting very excited now.

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VERY! Good luck making the kids feel involved. I'm sure you'll find something perfect.

Not exactly the same, but my fiance and I both have significantly younger brother's that are around your boys age. We are having them light the family candles for our unity candle. Your boys could light one for you, your FSD could like one for your FH, and then you and your FH could take those and light your unity candle.

If you're not having a bridal party - I would just have them seated as guests of honor. Process before you do and maybe give them a corsage/boutonniere.

You could have them do some of the readings for your ceremony if they're a little bit more outgoing.

Hello. Our kids are grown and we have three grandchildren. So none of them wants to participate but we decided to have them walk down as the seating of the family.

Someone can escort you. They can be ushers or greeters. They can make a speech. They can do a reading. You can have them write and lead community vows. You can have a “family dance” instead of a first dance etc.