Third wedding do and don'ts

Hi and congrats Sharon ! This is my 2nd and my FH's 1st. With my 1st wedding, I didn't have the church, reception, dress, nothing, LOL, shouldn't have had the amrriage either but we learn, anyway, my FH does want me to wear a gown, so I am, at 1st I didn't want to because of tradition and being married before but after talking to people and voicing my opinion, they all said to wear it. I was told that it does not matter anymore and you do what you want. Have a shower!! I'm not for the simple fact that my 10 yr old daughter is my MOH and I am not having any other bridesmaids, lol, nothing wrong with it. Have a recipe shower, your guests bring their favorite recipe and this way you can have a collection of them, (this is incase you didn't really want the gift thing going on). A couples shower sounds real nice too, nowadays, anything goes, if you would like to have a shower and someone wants to give you one, let them And go for the fancy dress, I am sure he wants to see Congrats!

I've got the same thing as you! My 3rd, his first... but I never had the wedding I wanted. He wants to give me the time of my life, and he's enjoying it all too! i am honestly looking at this as doing it the right way to celebrate the way I want my life to be now, and forgetting all the things (exes, past drama) that I don't want. Have fun with it, that's the point, right? Do the dress, at least, one that makes you feel beautiful! Cause you are! As far as the shower issue, since it seems you want to include him, I personally would go with a couples theme. But that's me!

1st congrats!!! ok so all the girls on weddingwire urged me to watch the bridal shows on tv and I finally started watching them like 3 weeks ago. Ok the point is there is this wedding cake show and the bride was doing what you want to do which is have the wedding around her FH. She had them make a cake for him. It was a Kangaroo cake with cigars sticking out of the pouch. So I think you could have a cake made as a symbol of something your FH really likes. You know like a cake made to look like a sailboat (because of the pic you have) or made to look like a mini putting green, ect. Good luck

If your main concern is gearing the events toward him, I would skip the traditional bridal shower and do something together so the focus is on both of you as a couple.

You can also do other things throughout the process that keep him in the limelight. As the PP said, you could come up with a grooms' cake idea that is personalized to him. You could also incorporate his hobbies or interests in your theme to some degree, like the cake topper, invitations, favors, etc., whatever you want! (And kudos to you for keeping him at the forefront.)