Third times a charm?

Christine - While I would say that your situation isn't "the norm", I wouldn't say that it's completely tacky. You could do a very nice wedding, tactfully, without going over the top; it's all in the details. But ultimately, it comes down to what the two of you want...Do what makes you both happy!

My dad's boss (he's like, 65 or something) got married again a few years ago. They had it on their property, but with huge tents and a bunch of tables. A bunch of food. She wore a nice dress and he wore a suit. They might have even had a band if I remember correctly. It was really, really nice.

I would do you. Whatever you guys want, just do it if you can afford it.

Congrats on your engagement! Um this is tough to answer I do think everyone is entitled to what they want! Did you both have big wedding in your prior engagements? As a guest I may think, this is ridiculous going to another wedding for you but then again a party is a party in my eyes lol. I went to a wedding recently where the groom was my friends. This was his second marriage. His first wedding was huge and so was this one. Though this was her first wedding. So I felt it was ok for them because she shouldn't lose her day because of his first marriage. Idk such a tough question! Lol I think for 3 marriage and he was married before maybe a low key event would be better.

I sort of think as far as having a party and stuff...if that's what you want do it. However, the whole registry thing is iffy. I'm assuming you aren't going that route, but I wouldn't expect gifts if you've been married before a few times.

No, we aren't registering. He was married for 35 years, got married when he was 20? I was married when i was 19, nice small wedding, then again 12 years ago, no friends, no family, (bad story). The only person who would be attending that would have been to a previous wedding would be my mother.

I say have the party you want. No one knows all of the circumstances and if they are going to side eye it, they shouldn't attend.

I think every bride gets moments wondering if this is all worth the costs and hassle if it is their 1st or 3rd.

I think you should do what ever you feel is right. My brother had been married three times and the third was the nicest of them all so make it special!!

Oh yeah then have the big party girl! Sounds like you got jipped before lol do it up!

Go for it! What's norm nowadays? This is my second marriage and its a lot bigger and more expensive than the 1st and I don't feel bad about it at all! It feels like its my first time too. My son is walking me down the aisle and wearing a white dress. This day is whatever you want it to be

I say do what makes you happy. People will always talk weather its your first or third. There is nothing wrong with celebrating the love you two have for each other and creating a special day and a memory. DO IT!!! :-)

No regrets. If you want it, if it makes you happy..go for it.

This in not the first marriage for either of us. We thought about going away and just do a DW but I really wanted a big party with all of our family and friends. And some very special people that want to be included and we want to include couldn't have been there for a DW. We've been engaged for a while and kept hearing "When's the wedding", "We can't wait for your wedding", etc. So we opted for an outdoor ceremony with what started out as about 50 guests, grew to closer 100, and is now over 100 if most all of them show. As word got around that we'd set a date more and more friends and family are excited about coming and the list grew. FH's 1st wedding was a DW, just the two of them. My 1st was planned by my mom. I wanted to do this one the way WE want it and a little traditional mixed with non-traditional so it's "Us".

Make your wedding fit "YOU".

Yea, we've had the same issues. Everyone is sooooo excited, big family, everyone wants to come, even the ex-family. Its crazy! Thanks to everyone for the words of encouragement. I really fealt like we just want to make it super nice, and he wants his two sons and my son to stand up with him, so now i have three too, his two daughters and my daughter. And yes, at first he thought he might be able to come up with 25 people, by the time i was done asking "what about...." we were up to about 85, and i don't think i have everyone yet. I'm finally getting excited about this now. Thank goodness we decided to put it out a year. :-)

If you can afford it and you want it, do you care what other people think? People throw big parties every once in a while, yours just happens to have a happy occasion and reason linked to it!

It sounds like you're really excited and you should probably do it. Even if we said it was tacky (which I don't think it is unless you're doing it simply for gifts--clearly not the case), wouldn't you still want to?

I married my high school sweetheart when I was 19 @ the courthouse & we were happily married for 15yrs (together 18) before his passing from cancer. This will be my 2nd marriage & FH 1st & were not going high end, but defintely making sure that what matters most to us is 1st & foremost & we can afford it. Good luck & go with what you want

I think you should have your wedding however you want. If anyone criticizes you, they are not required to attend, so why should they care? Do what makes you and your FH happy.

I don't think there is anything wrong with having whatever size celebration you want, regardless of the number of previous marriages or how old you are. I know that my family members (who were the only ones who had been to my first wedding) made it a huge priority to make it to my second wedding as well. (My brother and his wife came from Oregon, and my sister came from Mexico, to our wedding in Massachusetts.)

I think you can do whatever you want if you can afford it.

That said I do think it would be rude to have a shower, though you could still have a bachelorette if you wanted.

Do whatever you want! The number nor anything matters but what you guys want to do. This is my third marriage/Vow Renewal (long story lol) but Im going all out for this one! I want my last time to be very wedding like

This is my second wedding. I wanted something very low key, but it's his first and he wants the party. I agreed, but I'm also keeping things simple in their own way too.

I'm wearing a gold, MOB gown. My sister and my daughters are my only attendants and they're wearing knee length dresses and carrying nosegays.

It's a traditional wedding, but the details are on a smaller scale. It's what feels right to me.

Well, we are at a point in our lives where we can afford what we want, so we are going forward. Traditional, very nice, but simple. Probably a lot of knee length. I was thinking, since we don't need to register and no, no shower, if they want to give something, give to a charity we choose. But i'm excited and so is he. :-) Thanks for all the encouragement.