Hi all,
I am feeling pretty bummed out. 3 of my bridesmaids live out of town and one already dropped out after alot of wishy washyness. She originally had said several times she 100% would be there and was excited, but then when it came down to actually booking flights, ordering the dress, etc it turned out to be a no 3 months before the wedding due to finances, kids, too busy. I understand her not being able to come but stringing me along for months upset me. I wish she would have told me no from the beginning.
I have 2 other bridesmaids who live out of town and were invited to my bach party. One bridesmaid has changed her mind 4 times now. Originally said yes, then no because her mother in law was going to be in town, then yes again, now its no again because she is too stressed and has not been sleeping well.
The other bridesmaid was a yes since we started planning in the fall last year, then was acting wishy washy - had not booked flights,etc - and now finally told me she is not coming after I reached out to HER to make sure she was still in. She said too expensive and bach location wasn't her scene anyways.
I know that they do not owe me anything and that people have other things going on, but the fact that they have strung me along for months and make comments about being stressed/have other things going on is what's hurtful. I have not for one second felt celebrated by them but instead feel like a burden/annoyance.
My question is, should i have my 2 brothers stand in for my 2 other bridesmaids who live out of town? At this point, I am not confident they will show up to my wedding at all and dont want to wait until the last minute to find out. I don't want to be petty, but I am thinking about texting both of them to say don't worry about bridesmaid duties anymore as I know they are busy and the trip is alot to ask, but if they can still attend I would love to have them there.
Thoughts?