Thinking about postponing

I would do a small ceremony now, and then have the big celebration later on when it makes sense financially. I get wanting a big wedding, but at the end of the day what is more important... the big party or being married?

View Quoted Comment You're so right. It's just so frustrating. Thank you

I would grab our sibs, spouses and my kids (parents are passed, we are 54) and have a small ceremony in a private dining room of a restaurant. (The officiant can be right there, no courthouse needed - plus I had to go to court with my divorce, so.......no) and if people ask, tell them: We were not in a position to have a big wedding. They will understand. I bet a quarter you will not miss the stress and headache that can often accompany planning a big wedding.

View Quoted Comment You can still make it so special and so fun, just without the stress of planning!

What if if you did like a surprise wedding? Invited people over to your house for dinner, or even for just some drinks and snacks and had an officiant do the wedding right there?! You can still get the white dress and have the special moments

I don't know about your original budget or guest list but there may be ways to make it more affordable. A more DIY venue with tables and chairs may be a good alternative. You can price out catering in your budget range, do simple DIY centerpieces, etc. Search local parks and rec within 20 miles. Many have beautiful buildings or wonderful community centers available to rent at very affordable prices. It may take some searching to find a good fit but well worth it. Scale back on the guest list too if have to. Or push your date till the spring if you think it will help.

View Quoted Comment Yes, thank you, we thought about it. And I think we going to do just that. Thanks

View Quoted Comment Yes, thank you, haven't thought about that! Thanks

View Quoted Comment That's another great idea!! OMG thanks

Thanks guys for your support

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You are welcome and keep us posted!!!

I second PP's advice on having a small intimate wedding with family and taking them out to eat after