I have accepted the fact that COVID-19 has made monumental strides for changing things in all businesses including the restrictions in the wedding industry. These changes are to ensure everyone is going to try and remain safe and healthy. These changes bring on financial hardships and uncertainty. However, the stress and anxiety from these things can be eased if you have someone there who is willing to LISTEN and FOLLOW THROUGH on their actions.
The fiance/FH SAYS he wants to help with making the changes we have to make to our wedding, BUT HAS SHOWN ABSOLUTELY NO INTEREST IN HELPING WITH IT. It has been like this the whole time. I wanted a simple wedding in the first place. He wanted a big, traditional wedding. I got placed with the burden of having to plan what HE wanted. He pulled away every time we had to plan something or just would start acting up to get out of things.
We're 67 days away from our original wedding day, but I am unsure of what is to happen. He has put ZERO thought in to the changes we need to make. His own father asked a family member for us if we could have it hosted at their house if it came to it. His father has helped with asking family members what they're thinking about at this time.
He has absolutely no fire under his ass right now to help make the SMALL adjustments. He has even said I won't put this burden on you again. And what has he done? The same repeated pattern. He couldn't even follow up with any vendors to figure out a plan B with them. Couldn't follow up on the marriage classes we have to take to get married at the church (not even the couple that is mentoring us in the classes could follow up).
Because of this and having to switch to survival mode and buying only what we need for food and other items, I have not been able to even think about the wedding. Therefore, NOTHING has been done/nothing has been discussed. Because, again, I haven't taken the initiative to do so.
Therefore, this just gives me an inside look to how our future as a couple looks and it doesn't look like he is willing to help through tough times. He wants me to do ALL the work. Take on all the burdens. Fellow wedding wire peeps, what do I do?