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Courtney
Beginner October 2020

They Haven't Given Us Their Plus-one's Name

Courtney, on September 29, 2020 at 11:26 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 12

Our guest list and seating chart are due tomorrow and we have multiple guests that haven't given us the names of their plus ones. We've texted them multiple times asking and they always dodge the question. Is it weird to put "_____'s Guest" on the seating chart and on their place card? I don't know what to do!

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Latest activity by Judith, on October 21, 2020 at 3:37 PM
  • Kia
    Devoted September 2021
    Kia ·
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    That’s what I planned on doing lol
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I would just put "___'s Guest". If they won't give you the name, there's not much else you can do.
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  • Y
    Dedicated January 2021
    Yvonne ·
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    I agree with the comments above; it's okay to leave them as "--'s guest". Ball was in their court, you asked on time and they didn't give you an answer on time.

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  • Kimberly
    Super March 2021
    Kimberly ·
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    Yes if you’ve done your due diligence to try to get the info and they haven’t cooperated then they can’t be offended that you don’t have the info for the seating chart and place cards. Don’t sweat it and go ahead with “_______’s guest”.
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  • V
    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I would just put _______'s guest like you suggested. That's what we did when we weren't given a name.
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  • T
    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    We encountered this with one of our guests and told them we were only inviting named guests. So if it were me in this situation I would say 'in order to save a spot for your guest, we will need to know their name'. If they refuse, I would say 'unfortunately we will be unable to accommodate them'.

    I don't have patience for this nonsense. But that's just me!

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  • M
    Super October 2022
    Michele ·
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    Call or text to find out the names. Split up the phone list with fiance to track them down.
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  • Kimberly
    Expert October 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    That’s not weird. It’s what I would do too.
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  • Heather
    Expert August 2020
    Heather ·
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    I had this happen with one guest in particular and it was irritating me to now end. But honestly, there’s so many other things that you can stress over or worry about, and this is not one of them lol. If this guest doesn’t want to give their plus one’s name, fine. Put “Guest’s Plus One”. If the plus one is offended, or the guest is offended, remind them that you reached out. It isn’t your problem.
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  • Cassidy
    VIP October 2017
    Cassidy ·
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    A plus one with the first guests name on it is fine. It was not standard practice at any wedding I have ever been to that they asked for the plus one’s name.
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  • Emily
    Beginner August 2021
    Emily ·
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    It's not weird, sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Honestly, what's a little weird is the fact that they aren't telling you their plus one's name.

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    Judith ·
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    Yeah, I would not send an invite at all for a SO or guest , if the original guest has been called ( not a message, talked to) and come up with a name before invitations go out. Of course I would still reserve a place, and see if their getting an invitation with no guest listed , prompted them to call. This goes for anyone except a few young'uns where I might say, whoever you are dating then. But if they cannot give you a name, why?
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