They changed the date. What to do.

That is so insanely rude on so many levels. There’s no way I’d go.
If you can’t get refunds on your flights, I’d turn those March dates into a mini-vacation and still go.

No, you are absolutely not wrong and should not feel guilty at all if you need to decline attending. The couple made the decision to change their plan very late in the game, and unfortunately those changes sound as though they are going to be very inconvenient for their guests. They made the decision to put their venue ahead of their guests, and they are going to have to live with the consequences of that decision.

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I agree with this, that's crazy that they would even do that.

Not wrong at all. It’s ridiculous that they’re getting mad at people who are now not attending when the week before Christmas is an insanely expensive travel week.

They decided to change the date, that means they have to accept the declines that come with it due to price increase, scheduling conflicts, etc. They are allowed to be upset (angry ehh) that people are changing there answer to declines, but the guests that accepted, accepted knowing they could make it within their schedule, and air fair and lodging that was within their budgets. That has now changed. You are not in the wrong for changing your answer....technically the wedding you rsvp'd to has been cancelled. This would be considered a new event for invitations

You are not wrong at all! The couple should understand that people have other things planned on weekends, especially close to the holidays, and guests can't always rearrange their schedules last minute just because the couple decided to change their wedding plans. Plus the increased cost due to everyone traveling for the holidays. They should not be upset at people who aren't available on the new date, or who aren't willing to pay significantly more to attend on the new date.

They have no business being "really angry" at anyone.

1. They changed the dates after people already had plans.

2. They changed it to the holidays. This may be an unpopular opinion, but I loathe weddings around major holidays. They're selfish (you want people to either take additional time off, or spend their off time at your wedding - instead of with their families) and inconvenient (travel is always more expensive, busy, sometimes even impossible if the wedding is somewhere popular for that holiday, like NYC during Christmas/NYE).

You are not wrong if you have to cancel. That is a risk they should have considered when they abruptly changed their date, especially to a time around the holidays.

No, you’re not wrong. You agreed and rsvpd to a completely different event. If you’re close I’d highly suggest to the bride they keep the original venue. I’m assuming they’re going to get a lot of declines and not even be able to use the new venue…

I would not only decline to attend, I'd drop these rude, entitled, nutso people as friends

Agree. Changing the date when guests are flying from other countries is extremely rude and selfish.
They should expect a ton of declines.

I think they were a little rude and you don't need to be spending that kind of money to go to the wedding.

No that is rediculous

Wow that's so rude! You're well within your right to cancel/not go on the new date.

Thank you everyone. I feel much better about our decision.

Um no, this is completely unreasonable. I honestly cannot imagine a wedding I would pay nearly $10000 to attend. Sorry.

They might be mad at local family/friends, but they won't or shouldn't be mad at you. Frankly, if they are, they are out of touch in a way that should make you reconsider friendship with them.

(on the other hands it's bucket list for me to go to Europe during christmas markets, so if you end up going it will be beautiful)

Hi ! Well, they just should assume that people won't be able to come... don't worry to say no. And still, the situation changes fast, we can be in a lockdown by then... it was the same last year for Christmass...