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Chrysta
Rockstar November 2022

Theme/vibe vs venue

Chrysta, on October 20, 2020 at 12:30 PM

Posted in Style and Décor 25

How many of you based the theme/colors/vibe of your wedding on the venue? Did you choose the venue first, then choose colors, etc. that went with it? Or did you already have your colors, theme, etc. picked out first, then chose a venue that would support it? Did any of you change your mind after...


How many of you based the theme/colors/vibe of your wedding on the venue? Did you choose the venue first, then choose colors, etc. that went with it? Or did you already have your colors, theme, etc. picked out first, then chose a venue that would support it? Did any of you change your mind after picking the venue?
I am having a conundrum. Originally, I planned to have an incredibly low-key wedding and had the colors/vibe all picked out. We chose a venue and it fit the original vision perfectly. Many months later, while we were looking for invitations and talking about the wedding, we decided it would be really cool to have a theme that was meaningful to us, both together as a couple and separately. We were both super excited about it, and I proceeded to purchase all the decor to support that theme. Now that our wedding has been postponed another year, I have had time to rethink things & I am second guessing the decision to have a theme. Although I love the theme (both aesthetically and the meaningfulness), I am realizing that it is going to be a lot of work. We are having a destination wedding, which means I am going to have to either ship everything to our location ($800+ to ship!), or have our guests that are driving take everything down for us. There are at least 4 huge storage totes full of stuff, plus a few additional boxes, so it’s A LOT of stuff to lug around, and will likely take a ton of time to set up, which I am realizing now probably isn’t what I want to be doing the day of my wedding. Also, it hit me last night when I was looking at pictures of the reception space... we chose that space with our original vision in mind. Now that we have changed that vision, it feels like the decor is going to be fighting the aesthetic of the room. After laying awake thinking about it last night, I am beginning to feel as if we should just go back to our original, low-key vision. I still absolutely love our original plan and it fits the venue perfectly! The only reason we changed it is because we liked the personal meaning behind the new theme. But now I am thinking it’s not really worth all the time, money, stress and hassle.

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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2022
    Chrysta Online ·
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    Thank you 💕
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  • Chrysta
    Rockstar November 2022
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    Thank you so much to everybody who gave their input/suggestions. I truly listened to each of you and took everything into consideration and ultimately I agreed with you that it probably makes more sense to return to the original vision for the wedding. I discussed it with my fiancé last night, and to my surprise he seemed relieved! Apparently he had thought it was way too much to do already, but didn’t want to disappoint me or stress me out 🤦🏼‍♀️😆 So, we will be returning to our original vision and keeping a few tiny celestial details, rather than going floor to ceiling celestial. Thanks again for your help everyone💕
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride Online ·
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    Theme first, then venue to fit. The venue’s colors ultimately led to the color palette.
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  • Kaila
    Beginner June 2022
    Kaila ·
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    I picked colors then the place but this is my first wedding and I have no clue what I'm doing😂
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  • Amanda
    VIP December 2020
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    We never had a "theme" but we did have a color palate and overall aesthetic picked out for our original wedding date of June. When we moved our wedding to December we changed the colors but kept everything else the same for the most part. I love a good theme but we just didn't think of any for our wedding day that we both liked enough or thought we could pull off.

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