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Just Said Yes September 2022

The Year of 1,000 Weddings

Devon, on July 11, 2020 at 12:41 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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Fast forward about a month: another family Member gets engaged, we’re super excited... We’re still struggling to book a venue since most places we like are still closed or not taking reservations for 2021.
Another month goes by and the family member sends my fiancé’s parents a verbal “save the date” for early September of next year.
We put a hold on a venue as soon as they would allow for the last weekend of September and told the family of the current plan.
Meanwhile, another family member was scheduled to be married in fall of 2020, recently postponed to early October 2021 (may or may not be the weekend right after ours)
I am worried that with all of these weddings so close together that some family members will not be as excited to come to ours. There were already negative comments made by one of our parents about our wedding being in the same month as the other family member. I really don’t want to make waves and my fiancé and I are clearly not looking to start any sort of family wedding drama.
My concern now is if we should continue to pursue planning for this September date, move it to late fall, or push it back to Spring of 2022 so it’s less stressful for family and guests, and ensures our day is just as special and doesn’t fall off anyone’s radar. I welcome any advice/recommendations or wise words to knock some sense into me.

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Latest activity by Marcia, on July 12, 2020 at 1:24 PM

Just Said Yes September 2022
Devon · on July 11, 2020 at 12:47 PM
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My fiancé and I got engaged in January and started planning/looking at venues (or at least trying to) in March. Even though planning had come to a halt for quite a while (Thanks Covid), we told his whole family our plans for timing were around end of Sept. / Early Oct. 2021.
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Megan · on July 11, 2020 at 12:49 PM
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I'm in the same situation, my brother is getting married October 2021.My cousin is getting married November 2020 with a June 2021 reception. Yet I have been engaged the longest and been with my fh for over 11 years and still haven't picked a date( we have been trying to save up money), yet I'm sure if I pick a date in 2021, it will cause drama since there is already two weddings.

Alot of people told me to do what's best for us and not stress what everyone says but it's alot easier to say than do! lol
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Reena · on July 11, 2020 at 12:51 PM
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Do what is best for you. My cousin got engaged before me and her wedding was set for February 2020. I got engaged after her and didn’t want to take away from her by planning a January or February wedding. Looking back now (because of the pandemic) I wish I would have picked the same time frame. Just not the weekend before or after.

This pandemic is hard. People are going to be more understanding. Only push things back if you want to.
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Dedicated July 2020
Aurora · on July 11, 2020 at 9:26 PM
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My FH sister and us got engaged same time. Actually she know my FH (her brother) was going to propose and she did it right before him anyways. Then she told him we could get married first but then suddenly scheduled their wedding. They got married the summer before us and ours is next weekend. There was even drama over that, we were asked to wait 2-3 years to not encroach on the magic of the sisters wedding by their mom. But we didn’t listen to that, I was a little salty over it .
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Marcia · on July 12, 2020 at 8:44 AM
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As you'll see from my previous posts, I dealt with similar nonsense with my cousins. My perspective is this: everyone gets one day. For families, giving at least 2 weeks in between is good to avoid travel fatigue. But family will still be excited for each wedding, and nobody will be thinking about someone else's wedding on your big day. On the flip side, nobody outside of family and wedding party really thinks about your wedding for long periods of time because they are guests and have their own lives, so this concern about having a "season of celebration" (my cousin's words, not yours) cut short is a bit silly. Just get married when you want and ignore every one who tries to make a mountain out of this molehill.
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Just Said Yes September 2022
Devon · on July 12, 2020 at 12:53 PM
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Marcia, that is a fantastic analogy!
Believe me, I am definitely NOT the type of bride who needs an entire season of celebration (my birthday is 4 days after Christmas so I’ve grown used to overlap)...
I was in the mindset of at least 2 weeks between. I guess my concern now is that the family member who rescheduled to the weekend after when ours didn’t get the memo, and if we continue to pursue, does that make us look like the ones not being respectful of their time?
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Expert March 2021
Marcia · on July 12, 2020 at 1:24 PM
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Oh if it's a weekend after, I would try to talk to them about it. That is definitely a valid concern. Did they know your date? If so, they probably should change it. I would also let family know about yours first if they resist changing
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