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Felina
Savvy December 2019

The wedding is officially postponed

Felina, on July 6, 2018 at 12:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 18
Do to my fiance getting laid off and being on such a tight budget even before that, we officially decided to postpone. There was just no way we could have pulled it off and while were both so disappointed, we immediately felt the weight lift off our shoulders. The wedding stress affected us way more than i even knew. My venue has been wonderful in letting us keep our deposit and have the same date for next year. We could have postponed it 6 months or something but we really love the date we chose so it felt right just to keep it.This allows us to save up for things like upgraded chairs/tablecloths, uplighting, and a videographer but let me just say see the 167 days turn into 532 on the timer bummed me out.Any one else have a long engagement? Did you enjoy it? Words of encouragement that that these 532 days will fly by!?

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Latest activity by Chelsey, on July 7, 2018 at 5:57 AM
  • Soon2Bmrsp
    VIP May 2019
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    Awe sorry to hear that but this is a blessing in disguise as you said because now you can have more things in your vision

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  • Shenell
    Dedicated October 2019
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    So sorry for the unfortunate situation and my Fiancé and I are just shy of a two year engagement. We got engaged Nov 17’ and will wed Oct 19’. The time flies by and look at it this way...it’s a fresh start. You know how to handle things and you will still have an amazing wedding and now you have more time to plan out some little details. Take care! This set back adds for theatrics in your love story! Only made you guys stronger!
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
    Master October 2018
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    I'm sorry you had to postpone. Hopefully this will help out with the stress! You'll be back on the wedding track soon.

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  • JuneBride2018
    Devoted June 2018
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    My husband and I got engaged December 2015 and got married June 2018. Waiting that long was so perfect for us. I had my dream wedding and we saved up enough for our dream home. We took 2016 to enjoy and save and get our credit A1. 2017 was all about planning and spending. 2018 was game time lol. Waiting puts you in the financial stability you need to be in to make everything perfect in your eyes. I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. You guys will be fine.

    P.S the days will DEFINITELY fly by. Enjoy everyday and every moment of it because once the wedding is over you’re going to wish you could go back. Take your time and just enjoy.
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  • Victoria
    Super May 2019
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    We got engaged after two years together, we just passed our three year anniversary and aren’t getting married until a few days before our four year anniversary! So a two year engagement. It’s really made things so easy because we have time to make all the payments and not stress the planning because we have time to make up our minds! Enjoy your planning but make sure not to put it off because it’ll be here before you know it!
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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
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    I'm sorry you had to postpone but even more sorry about your fiancé getting laid off. You guys absolutely did the right thing by postponing the wedding. Both my husband and I have been through layoffs ourselves and it can be very stressful. Best to focus on job hunting for now. Once he lands his new job, you can refocus on the wedding and you will both enjoy the experience so much more without a financial burden.

    Take it from someone who is 57 years old (me), time goes by in a blink of an eye. My husband and I first met in 1979 in college and its hard to believe it's been almost 40 years since we met. Don't wish time away because before you know it, you'll be wishing for that time back.

    Best of luck to you and your fiancée and please keep us updated when he lands his new (and hopefully even better) job.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Our engagement will be 19 months long total (July 2019 wedding) and it's been super nice. We've had other stuff to do (buy a house, my fiance got his masters degree & started working, he's working towards his CPA license, I'm working towards my appraisal license) so planning in under a year would have been brutal. We are over a year out and some major vendors are booked and our venue is. It's so nice not being stressed!

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  • KatieLaine
    Savvy October 2019
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    When we started talking wedding/marriage plans, we both had Oct 2018 (this year) in mind. And I was a little bummed that we weren't going to be able to make it work this year–but honestly, I am (now) super relieved we waited until NEXT October! Planning our wedding has been sooo chill! We're more relaxed about making choices, and I'm not fighting anything for his attention in order to get his opinion on anything in particular. We have been to three weddings together, at this point and know what we want and what we don't want.

    So there are pros and cons to a longer engagement. I know it's for the better. And believe me, time flies! I started my countdown at 700+ days to go and we're down to 473!!! 😲😲😲😲 It's crazy!

    You'll be really happy you held off! You're going to have EVERYTHING you want/need to have the complete wedding you imagine! You're going to be so happy you waited...
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  • Kaleigh
    Super December 2019
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    Our engagement will be from start to finish 773 days, and we are currently 514 days away. A long engagement is perfect for us because we can save up for everything that we want. We won’t look back at our wedding and regret not having something because this extra time gives us all the opportunity to save up for everything and not go into debt! Your wedding will be here before you know it! And it’ll be perfect! ❤️
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  • KatieLaine
    Savvy October 2019
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    Oh, excuse me: 462!!! See, I told you time flies! It's been awhile since I've checked the countdown! 😅

    Really, you'll be relieved! It takes so much stress off your shoulders when you can take your time. And I even suggest following the timeline check-off list that WW offers. I stay a little ahead of the game, but not too much–im determined to not be frantic for two months prior to the big day, ha ha
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  • MrsPreach2018
    Master August 2018
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    Awe, don't be bummed. When I started I was close to 600 days, I'm now 55 days away.... it does go by fast. It gives you more time to research vendors, get all those little things.
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  • Steph N.
    Super October 2018
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    I’m so sorry to hear about your FH’s layoff, but you guys did the right thing postponing. Just think how great it’ll be to spend the next year planning in a stress-free way!

    The time will zip by. We booked our venue about a month after we got engaged, so our official countdown started at around 535 days. We’re now at 98 days, and let me tell you - the time FLEW.

    Hopefully your FH is able to find another job soon!
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  • Amanda
    Master October 2018
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    We tried to get married last year ... but no oct dates wgen we looked and booked a year before fh suggested spring .. i wanted to be his wife sooner but i wanted Oct .. i was going to have oct lol so we pushed it out 2 years im 3 months away now it went slow the forst year
    . But this year flew by
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  • futuremrspayne
    Expert May 2019
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    Aw I’m sorry to hear that!! But don’t worry, it really will fly by! I’m having a 2 year engagement and the first year flew! Now I’m down to 10 months and it’s gonna be here before I know it! Having a long engagement was essential for us so we could save up some money, so it was definitely worth it!
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  • Felina
    Savvy December 2019
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    Aww i came home from work to all these wonderful comments! Thank you everyone for you words of encouragement! It is hard but im trying to look on the brightside, i know its for the best! Next step is getting him a job and getting back on track with planning. Luckily im now ahead of schedule with planning 😂 thanks guys❤️
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  • Chariece & Sterling
    VIP December 2026
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    I have had to push back my wedding too. I remember being in the 800's now I am at 421. I am still in a enjoyable state of wedding planning. But now that summer is here all we can do is a staycation. Because we are on a budget for a move and wedding.
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  • Chelsey
    Devoted July 2019
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    We had similar issue (changing plans last second) but for different reasons. This year we both lost our cars so we had to get new ones, resulting in lesser funds for wedding. To save money we exchanged our cruise honeymoon for a week in smoky mountains. But then issues arose with living with my sister (me and her rent my parents old home and FH moved in, we are both done with her irresponsibility and can’t wait a few months to save up like we thought we could), so we decided to move out. A big wedding and moving out just wasn’t within our financial means. We still had to pay for the vendors. So on top of being stressed, we decided to do an intimate wedding with honeymoon in smoky mountains, and move out . I do not regret changing our plans because i already feel less stressed and once again I’m happy for the wedding in November.

    ill admit thought it is hard to change after planning so much.
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  • Chelsey
    Devoted July 2019
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    We didn’t push the date back because we have been together for 6 years and engaged for two of them and we just wanted to be married lol, it’s time
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