The silver lining in planning a wedding during the pandemic.

We postponed our wedding from October to April. I'm not 100% confident that April will happen, but I've been trying to be positive and find silver linings assuming it does happen. We are getting married on the coast, in the South, and we were really worried about a hurricane hitting the week of our wedding. Well...not so in April! I also spent last weekend outside and was reminded that my sunburns turn into really ridiculous looking tan lines and now I don't have to worry about getting it to even out before the wedding since I'll be back to my pale self in the spring.

I’m glad to see that you are thinking positive

View Quoted Comment I’m hopeful that your April wedding will go as planned! That’s awesome that you were able to find silver linings in your postponement too! 😊

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I think we have to during trying times- it gives us something to look forward too after all of this is over.

Thanks for your positivity. I was really upset when we decided to postpone our wedding, but I have now come to see it as getting an extra wedding where I had the opportunity to try out other things. I got to wear a different dress that doesn't fit the big theme, but was perfect for our elopement. I got to diy flowers, hair and makeup which I was too nervous to do for the big event. We did a destination wedding--and I confirmed I am glad we didn't decide to do this for the big wedding. Lastly, I got to learn how to use imovie to put together our wedding video afterwards.

I do think that this has made me a bit more laid back about the next wedding, knowing we pulled off all this by ourselves.

It’s good to finally hear someone upbeat about all of this!

I went through the motions but now I’m ready to take on anything lol. Literally just excited to marry by best friend, twice! And to have an elopement and a celebration with friends and family next year. It’s going to be awesome!

Wow! How wonderful you get two celebrations and each of you get one you want. Win-win! 💜 💜

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That's amazing! I also am doing DIY flowers (they're fake), but it was actually empowering to do it myself.

Sounds like you are definitely getting the best of both worlds with your weddings.

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That's amazing! I also keep saying I get to be a bride for even longer too! I mean how lucky are we?

I see everyone saying that weddings go by in a blink of an eye, but with having 2 I don't think that will be the case.

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That's exactly how I feel about it!

Yes! So many people have said this is a heartbreaking decision, but for us, it was easy. I was worried about the potential for people to get sick at our wedding, and postponing makes me feel like I'm keeping everyone safe. I knew I was more anxious than I needed to about our wedding but I didn't realize how bad it was until I started sleeping better once the quarantine started and while everyone else was freaking out over the coronavirus, I didn't have to think about the wedding because I didn't know if it would happen. I had always wanted to have a smaller wedding, but my fiancè is very social and I have a lot of relatives. I had decided I could tolerate 125 people, we sent save the dates to 160. Now we're getting married in a very private ceremony (just our immediate families, only 15 people). I never imagined our wedding being THAT small, but I'm glad it's working out this way. Whenever we end up having our reception (we've chosen a date but I'm not overly confident that it will happen), we'll already be married, so I won't be nearly as nervous and I won't mind when my fiancè friend needs to bring a guest or my mom wants to add a few more friends. Plus I get to wear my dress twice!

Yes that’s awesome! I felt a huge weight was lifted after we decided to elope & postpone. It was more stressful not knowing if it would be safe and trying to figure out ways to keep people safe.

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I totally agree! Worrying about getting one of our loved ones sick was not something we wanted, so postponing was a no-brainer too.

I love that you are both getting your ideal weddings too. I am also super excited about wearing my dress twice. I always thought it was ridiculous that they cost so much considering we wear it for one day - wearing it for two is definitely a win!

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They do go by so fast!

Yes, love your positivity! I'm still working to get through all the mopey-ness lol we will be getting married on our original but now postponed wedding date, 8/16. And I can't wait! You had a lot of valid points. I will still flip if a child cries at my "other" ceremony though! lol But it definitely is the best of both worlds... not putting anyone in danger, get to celebrate 2 ways twice, a minimoon and a honeymoon once things are normal again! Wish you the best!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for posting this! It's really nice to be encouraged to look at things positively and to see other people doing the same!

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Mine were fake too. I thought about doing fresh but because it was a destination wedding and I wasn't sure what would be around I found it easier to make ahead of time. I also made a matching boutonniere for DH. The nice thing is that I can now display my bouquet in our place.