The pressure is on!

Your pressure is because you are letting family pressure you. Trust me do not. You and your FH need to do what works for you and maybe a wedding on a Tuesday evening is it. Check those venues for off days and see if their prices drop dramatically. What type of venue are you looking for? I get the expensive side and for that reason I had to open my mind to different types of venues. I wanted a hotel but they were all super expensive or did not cater to elopement ceremonies so I am not doing a bed and breakfast that caters to weddings and elopements and I could not have been happier. If we were doing something bigger the place I wanted to get married I would have done a Thursday just because it would have been half the price. You two set the date and location for you and if June is best then cater to that...not others schedules because if you factor that in you won't make everyone happy.

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Yes, I am definitely letting them pressure me. But really only because we have guests flying in, though I did tell them our tentative date.

The venue offered a 10% discount for a weekday but it's not a substantial enough amount. The venue only has to have a nice outdoor place for us to set up and bathrooms.

It's most convenient to have the reception in the same place, so we are looking at places with an outdoor and a covered area for the reception. I'm not opposed to tents, but most places with bathrooms on the property already have a covered area.

If the venues we look at this weekend don't work out, I'll look at getting permission to use a public park and probably have an even smaller reception in a nice restaurant.

I don't mind a weekday, but traffic will really be a problem.

This is the reason why I didn’t tell any of my family except for my parents and sister that I was getting married till I had a venue and date! I didn’t want all the constant questions and pressures to revolve MY wedding around other people! The flip side of that was they were pissed I didn’t tell them right away about the engagement 🤷‍♀️ Sometimes you can’t win so do what makes you happy!

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Hmm are there bed and breakfast in your area? I ask because mine has outside and inside and it is perfect and we could have a small reception there too. We could even cater out. Look up garden clubs in your areas too or country clubs can be more affordable. I think it is great that you are factoring guests flying in but realistically. Here is where we are getting married and there is indoor and a kitchen so they cater to weddings best but the restaurant idea is awesome too.

they need to fit their plans to your decision for the date.

First, congratulations on your engagement! Second, that’s my wedding date too lol. Third, try not to let the pressure get to you. Finding a venue can be tough. I’m not sure where your located but we found it cheeped for a weekday wedding. We also found a venue that gave you now than just the space. We also have a few family and friend vendors which helped cut cost.

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Ohh that is so beautiful! It reminds me a lot of some vacation apartments that overlook the ocean. Probably have to book those rooms a year or two in advance though!! I will try to think of more places. We have a lot of tropical beauty.

My friends also suggested renting a rooftop, which could be nice as well. Not exactly my vision but there will be some nice photo ops at sunset and cheaper.

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Thank you so much! congrats to you as well! I feel like once we confirm a venue the main thing will be out of the way and I can probably handle everything else.

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You'd be surprised. It does not hurt to ask. Ask about vacation homes or estates. I even inquired about doing a ceremony at air bnb because ours would be so small and we would not do a reception and the guy said sure. I would dig deep and remember not all venues are on this site. What was very helpful for some venues and vendors was finding a wedding group of my area on fbook. So many venues and photographers not on here.

Sending you some positive vibes. It'll all come together