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Lynnie
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The order of the bridesmaids?

Lynnie, on August 18, 2015 at 2:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 50

Is this a thing? I'm curious.

Bride #1 got married in May, she put her bridesmaids in order of "closeness of friendship", so MOH then best friend and so-on. She obviously never acknowledged this out loud, but you could kind of tell.

Bride #2 is getting married on Friday! Bride #1 is jokingly offended because she's last in the line of 8 bridesmaids - but it looks like Bride #2 is matching up the bridesmaids by which groomsmen they are walking out with (height, relationship, etc). We also have mismatched bridesmaids dresses for this wedding, and the dresses aren't varied or staggered well in this order.

How did you set the order for your bridesmaids? I'm very curious!

50 Comments

Latest activity by Bond, Mrs. Bond, on August 18, 2015 at 7:11 PM
  • Jacqui76
    Master May 2016
    Jacqui76 ·
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    I have been thinking about this, and I have a long way to go so I may change my mind a million times, but I know which bridesmaids I want to walk with which groomsmen so I thought I'd ask FH what order his guys are standing in. I never heard of ranking them in order of "closeness" until I read that online somewhere and I would never do that. I don't think of my friends that way. The only thing I might consider doing is lining them up in height order or something. My MOH is the shortest so that would be fairly easy to do.

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  • JaKLyn
    Master November 2015
    JaKLyn ·
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    Those that are married are walking together, the other two got matched by height.

    ETA: I didn't really line them up in a particular way from us, this is just how we paired them together

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  • Jeanne
    Master August 2015
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    I'm doing my three sisters and then friends in no particular order. I mostly didn't want my sisters to be walking with my brothers and we have a couple really short people/really tall people on both sides and I tried to make them even-ish. That's about it. I think ranking by friendship is kind of crass, all of them were asked to be bridesmaids because they are my nearest and dearest, they aren't different values.

    For the wedding you're talking about, I would do it entirely based on what looks best for the mismatched dresses. I'm shallow like that Smiley smile

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  • OG Kristen
    Master October 2015
    OG Kristen ·
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    I only have 2 bridesmaids and my MOH, so this is easier for me. I'm doing MOH (my cousin), my best friend from college, then my best friend from high school. I'm equally close with my 2 bridesmaids, so I ordered the 2 of them by height.

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  • Mphgirl23
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    I am very nervous about this for that exact reason. I have 5 bridesmaids including the MOH and I don't want anyone to think that they are less important by being the last in line. SOMEBODY has to be the last one to walk down the aisle. I'm very lucky to have really laid-back BMs who all get along with each other but I hope no one secretly gets offended.

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  • Stephanie
    Expert October 2015
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    MOH/BM first, then height order after that.

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  • FutureMrsBrbr
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    I think I will be doing height order except for the MOH and BM who will be directly beside us, but the rest will be height order.

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  • Christina
    Master October 2017
    Christina ·
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    I've seen it done in height order and/or matched to the groomsman you'll be walking with. I'd find it awkward to have it knowingly done by your 'closeness' to the bride or groom.............

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  • Sarah195
    Master October 2016
    Sarah195 ·
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    Some people do it by closeness and some by height. Personally I'm doing it by closeness but I'm not telling them that lol.

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  • Missys984
    Master October 2015
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    I'm doing my 2 MOH's and then by height. It just works out that my sister and other MOH are the shortest. The groomsman are also by height. The only one that isn't by height is my SIL who we are having walk with my brother (her husband).

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  • Jennifer
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    I only have three... My daughters and my sister. So the order will be my youngest, who will be 13 then... My sister, and then my eldest who will be 21 and is my MoH.

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  • Debra
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    Debra ·
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    My MOH, then 2 BM are in order by height, finally my Jr BM who is the shortest. The BM, the order of GM was assigning by height in accordance with the BMs, and finally the Jr GM.

    ETA: My MOH is shorter than my other 2 BM's. MOH and BM were not chosen by height, etc. but by how close of a relationship they have with myself and FH.

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  • Jersey
    Master November 2016
    Jersey ·
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    Hmm... I always thought I would go by height. But I have 2 MOHs and one is the shortest girl and one is the tallest girl lol. So I don't know!

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  • pinguino
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    My MOH is my bff, and since she is MOH obviously she is first. Then I planned to have my friend from college as she is around the same height as my MOH (they are both short). Then the next two are FH's sisters and was going to go shorter one, then taller one, and last is FH's childhood friend who is almost 6ft tall. So it just sort of worked out by height for us. I think that will look good for pictures anyway. We haven't set the guys' order yet though.

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  • M
    Master July 2015
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    Mine were done semi by closeness. MOH (sister), then best friend, then everyone else were matched up by the guy they were walking with. I've known my SIL obviously decades less than the other girls, and I didn't want her right next to me in photos when it could be my BFF, so she was at the end. I'm sure I'll be at the end for her wedding too.

    I find the height thing more weird. Makes bridesmaids look like a bar chart, in my opinion.

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  • Reggie
    Master September 2015
    Reggie ·
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    The MOH and BM are first, but other than that people do many different things. Some do the order of closeness/importance but IMO that can get touchy. Some do height. You can really do whatever you want just try to not upset anyone so IMO whatever you do just be delicate about how it's phrased. Luckily I only have one MOH and one BM and he only has one GM so it's not really a big deal.

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  • Mrs. Kassy
    Master June 2015
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    My MOH was first obviously, then I ordered my 2 bridesmaids by who they wanted to walk with.

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    Elizabeth ·
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    My FH had a specific order he wanted his guys to be in so that helped a lot because then I just matched the BM up with their partner by height.

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  • Mrs. Lav
    Master November 2015
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    Am I the only one who thought that MOH walked down last, just before the bride? We have a flower baby in there somewhere. I haven't thought about this at all.

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  • FutureMrsJohnson
    Super October 2015
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    We have 3 couples who are married, so 2 of the couples will be walking together and the other one is the best man who is paired with my MOH.

    I kind of ordered my BM's by how I knew them and how they knew each other....MOH & a friend we both grew up with, then my 2 sorority sisters, then Family members (FSIL and my cousin), and then two BM's that I met through FH who have become very good friends of mine (also they are married to the 2 GM's). FH didn't care about order, so I picked his on height and who would get along best together.

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