The Night Before The Wedding: Together or Apart?

I plan to spend the night away. I want to build up excitement of being able to see each other the next day in our formal wedding attire at the altar

We didn't even question it. We spend every night together and that night will be no different. We will sleep better if we're together. And then we'll go off our separate ways to get things done in the morning. I'm waking up super early to run a big errand and he can stay in bed for a bit and have coffee, etc. We have to do setting up at our venue together, but then at 2pm we're going our separate ways and won't see each other all dressed up until our first look at 4:45. I get so giddy thinking about it!

Like you I sleep horribly when my FH is gone, and I really want to give myself the best chance of a good night sleep the night before our wedding. My FH and I have lived together for 3+ years, and he does travel for work several times a year so I'm not unused to it, but I much prefer sleeping with him by my side. I never questioned spending the night together with him the night before our wedding.

We plan to stay together the night before then part ways sometime after breakfast to spend time with our wedding parties and getting ready. We then wouldn't see each other again until the first look (if we do one, I'm leaning towards not) or at the ceremony.

We lived together before we were engaged, and like you, I don't sleep well when he's not around. (I don't sleep well, period.)

But we decided to spend the night apart, and it actually worked out really well. We both got some time in with our parents the night before and the morning of, we were able to relax with our respective parties while getting ready... And then I basically ran down the aisle, our officiant had to gently ask us to step apart so he could talk... it was hilarious and adorable, and wonderful. (We always, always kiss each other hello and goodbye, so by the time we got to the end of the ceremony, I launched myself at DH. Good thing he anticipated it.)

And I did manage to sleep before, I was just so tired from planning!

We have been living together for 3 years but will be spending the nights before the wedding apart. FH is committed to not seeing me at all after our welcome party the night before the wedding, no staying the night together not even a first look. I think he just enjoys the anticipation more than a traditional aspect and I'm totally ok with this. I love the idea of dedicating that evening before and the morning/afternoon the day of the wedding to my family and friends before my soon to be spouse, it sort of brings things full circle, they bring you to him and he takes the lead from the alter.

My FH and I have been going back and forth on this too! I have terrible anxiety and, like you, I do not sleep well when my FH is out of town - he travels a lot b/c he owns a travel basketball company and coaches 2 of the teams. After going back and forth, we decided to spend the night together the night before our wedding. We're staying at the resort I work in the contracts department of in a 4 bedroom signature collection suite. He is playing golf the morning of the wedding and will be leaving the room around 7am that morning to play. I will be getting ready there with my bridesmaids, grandmother and FMIL. He will be going back to our place after he plays golf to shower and change with his groomsmen (who he is golfing with). We are then meeting at the venue at 2:45 to take photos before the ceremony.

My FH and I bought a house together a few months before we got engaged. I'm old school and believe we should be apart the night before. I will have my mom stay with me and my fiance will stay with his brother. I figured we would just hangout and watch a wedding movie together.


I want to see him for the first time on our wedding day when I walk down the aisle to my future!