The New Normal

Hi Kayse, I am so sorry you're going through this. This is supposed to be such a happy time.

We are getting married on Long Island. We had a date of 7/18/20 and decided to postpone to 8/14/21 (longer than we wanted to wait, but that was all our venue had). I was so hesitant to postpone, especially a year because we too want to try for a baby soon. Ultimately I felt that by next summer, we will know a lot more about the virus and it leaves ample time for things to to get close to normal. By sacrificing my original date, we have a greater chance of having the wedding we envisioned. By not sacrificing our date, we were probably sacrificing so much more (grandparents not coming, out of town friends not coming, people wearing masks, no dancing, etc.).

I hope this is helpful to you. This is what works best for us and you will decide what works best for you. No matter what, your wedding will be special. Good luck to you! You're not alone!

My wedding was schedule for May 24th, 2020. We have decided to push it out to August 16th, 2020 to give us a change of having the wedding we originally planned. Come August, we are getting married no matter what even if we have to have something a little different. I cannot and will not wait a year.

My best advice of how to handle this is start to imagine what the change of plans could look like now. This has been way less traumatic for me because I had the opportunity to sit with the fact that my wedding was going to change before we had to change it.

View Quoted Comment My wedding was also supposed to be May 24., 2020. The day we met in 2015 💔 We had to reschedule to Aug 7 2020 but we are nervous we may have to reschedule again. We decided we are gonna get married in August no matter what too because we want to try for a baby. We don’t get a refund for our venue so we are gonna do a one year vow renewal next August if we can’t have the wedding. There is just so much uncertainty right now it really makes the wedding planning not fun. To be honest participating in these discussions and to know i am not alone has made this easier for me. We are all in this together. Hang in there ❤️

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You are probably right that by next summer, there is a huge chance that things will be much, much better. I like the idea of a summer wedding because I am a teacher. I'm glad you guys have a plan that works for you. As things evolve, we will figure it all out. We are also moving this weekend and I haven't wanted to ask anyone to help, so it's just a stressful time all around.

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I am also okay with going ahead even if it does look different....to an extent. Thank you for the advice. I've also had the chance to come to terms with the fact that we may have to postpone or that it may be smaller than we imagined. Ultimately, as long as I can have great pictures and be married to my FH, that is enough. Good luck with your wedding :-)

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Thank you. It has made things easier for me too, and I've loved being able to come here and read about other brides' experiences. I hope things work out for your August wedding.

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Oh my gosh, yes, that is a lot. You will figure it out! Take it one day at a time. Thank you for all you're doing as a teacher during this time as well.

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I teach juniors in high school, and it's been cool to see how sweet they've been during all this. I appreciate that :-)

My wedding was also planned for June 20th. This weekend we decided to postpone because we felt it would be better. Though things could be a little better in June it is not going to be great. We want our wedding to be special instead of people being worried about the virus. We are now scheduled for May of 2021. I’m starting to feel much better about this because I now have more time to enjoy the small things such as a bridal shower, bachelorette party, and all the exciting parts leading up to the day. Over the past few months I have not been excited about my wedding in June; I have been scared. Postponing may not be for everyone so I suggest making a pros and cons list!

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I'm sorry you had to postpone, but I'm glad you are feeling more excited now. I honestly hadn't even thought about a shower or bachelorette party, but that is a great point.

I'm now 9/2021. While there probably won't be a vaccine by then, it just gives me more time to figure stuff out and adapt to the new normal. The state where I am takes the virus very seriously. Every single person wears a mask to the grocery store, and people won't come close to you at all. People are afraid to be near anyone. I'm not sure how it is in your state though (out-of-state friends say its not as vigilant where they are). But for me I couldn't bring that terror into my day. Plus like all the other gals said I want that chance to figure out how to have a bridal shower and a bachelorette party. While I don't think I'll have the day I envisioned in 2021, it gives me more time to figure out how to make the absolute best of it.

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Which state are you in? I'm in Kentucky. I trust our governor and will follow whatever his recommendation is for sure.

I think a new normal won't be phased in yet. for instance before the shelters in place everything was like "event no more than 200 people" then it went down to "event no more than 100 people" then it went down to "gatherings not more than 10 people" etc so i want to think that we would implement that type of phasing in as well where the number of people at gatherings gradually gets higher

Hi!!! July 17th Bride here! I feel you pain, worry, and anger! This whole situation is just stressful because it is so unknown and seems to change day by day. I am still moving forward as planned for now. I am live in Florida and I am having the wedding here, but 100% of my guests will be coming from out of state (worries me the most), my guest list is already under 50 which is a positive thing at this point, but still has me wondering what can happen before then and will these re-opening phases work and make it worse. My fiance is completely positive we are having our wedding on our date, which makes me feel good, but sometimes the news and everything I read gets me down. I am trying to place all my faith in God and just know he has a plan of how my day should go. Currently my venue along with all my vendors has been a blessing. My venue has a hold date on November 1st as a back up if need be without any extra charges. Only thing is if another bride is looking at that date I will have to make an immediate decision, so it can happen anytime. I am trying to wait and see what May and the beginning of June looks like and how things are progressing before I need to make an ultimate decision for my guest. Everyone seems ok with coming as long as they can travel. I am praying for everyone going through this and my suggestion is to have a back up plan in case and keep the faith!! Sending lots of love

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I am sorry Jennifer! Hopefully by July things will be better :-)

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Thank you and I hope everything you plan works out! I know this is hard for all of us and trying to make these difficult decisions only adds to the normal wedding stress. Good luck and I'll wishing the best for you and every bride dealing with decisions to be made!