The Invitation

Well, my ex will never have a new spouse, so... (He's said many times he will never remarry, which I think is just as well, considering what a new spouse would have to put up with.)

But yes, I'd go to dinner with him (with or without him having a SO). He's not a bad guy, just totally clueless. We've had to develop a civil relationship, because we've got kids and grandkids together. And I'm pretty sure that even today (23 years after the marriage ended), if I called up and said for example that I'd been arrested and needed him to bail me out, he'd do it. (We won't even speak of the time I took him for a colonoscopy appointment, because he had to show he had someone to take him home, and I was the only one available.)

My fiance and I have been together for most of our adult life, so neither of us have exes that are from serious relationships. I do have a friend I dated for less than a year. We've kept in touch and have been friendly in social situations with each other. I would have no problem breaking bread with him, but my fiance, would not be into it. He still calls him my "ex-boyfriend". I don't get how that is the title that stuck when he was a guy I dated for 9 months but has been just a friend for over 10 years since. I think alot of people would have different opinions on this for sure.

If children were involved I would be more willing to go.

I don't think my husband would be into having dinner with our exes either.

Good point.

That's understandable.

My husband has no exes (yay for me being the one and only! lol), and I only have one, and we only dated for like 3 months. That being said, we would have no problem going to a dinner party that my ex and his new SO hosted. My ex was a total sweetheart, just not the right sweetheart for me, and there are no hard feelings between us.