The idea of displaying some photos of our grandparents who have passed away.

Do you have their wedding photos? You could display those instead of just portraits. I know a couple who did this (I can show you a pic of their table if you want to see the idea).

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Our parents have their wedding photos so we can have them. Thank you it's a sweet idea

Yes I would like to see the picture so I can get an idea of what it looks like.

What about displaying things they owned or their hobbies and interests. For example I'm having a memorial table and we have a grandparent who was a teacher and loved bike riding, so we bought a teacher sign and little bike, my grandfather was in the marines so we will have the American flag he got when he was honorably discharged.

View Quoted Comment I don't have their permission to post it publicly so I sent you a private message

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Thank you Katie or responding. This is a great idea and I'm 100% she'll love it since she has some of their items,accessories jewelries, etc ... at home.

There was a thtread not long ago weighing pros and cons. While many don't see it as sad, just as many do and said it dampened their mood, so take that as you will

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Thanks. I love it.

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Hi Michelle! I read this thread, I don't recall if I left a reply but I read it.:

"What are your thoughts on a memory table ?" IIf I remember correctly!

In fact ,I don't like the idea but I'm trying to compromise because it's important to my FW ... but I obviously want to ditch the sadness that usually comes with this. I have never seen this in person from the weddings I attended because it's not a thing in my circle, including the friends of mine. But I think that ,as a guest, this is not a thing I would pay attention to, to be honest. I wouldn't be offended but I wouldn't visit it either.

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I'm personally not a fan because of the sad vibe it will create. Others won't be affected because they likely didn't have a relationship with those people. You do you.

A compromise is perhaps getting a locket attached to her bouquet. They do make them for multiple photos.

I like the idea of displaying their wedding pictures! We're thinking of doing this too, along with our parents' wedding pictures (all still alive), so it'll be less sad and more admiring everyone's wedding memories. Our venue is also a mansion, so it has a foyer area with bookcases and fireplace mantles that we'd place these - feels a little more organic this way.

We are displaying everyone wedding photos on our gift/card table to honor and deceased individuals and we are also putting our parents pictures up as well. Additionally, pictures of all our of kids when they were born

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"Others won't be affected because they likely didn't have a relationship with those people. You do you". "Great point," She said.

I talked to her about the locket attached to the bouquet.Decision pending ... (she wanted this in the first place but changed her mind).

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Hello Michelle#2 🤭: Sweet! As for your parents, are you putting their wedding pics or those of everyday life ? I can't put their wedding photos because mine are divorced.

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I like the parents' wedding pics idea but mine ... are divorced. Displaying the grandparents' wedding pics is something I'll definitely consider and suggest. Thank you.

View Quoted Comment I'm putting up their actual wedding pictures but they are still together on both sides.

I am in your camp on this one, but because you are looking for a compromise, I thought a little more to see if there was a way to dress it up a bit so everyone is happy.

I like the idea of the wedding photos.

I also would like to suggest - hang in there with me on this - hanging the photos up.

I feel like setting a bunch of photos on a table has the "feel" of a memorial table, even without candles or lanterns or anything.

But I have seen people use stand-alone panels or wall hangings as décor. What about incorporating one of these, so that it looks more like décor and less like a mourning table? Examples below, but you could probably easily find something in the "vibe" of your event.

It all depends on how the crowd will proceed it. Some may see it as a cute idea in remembrance of them, while other will think it's a sad thing because they are not physically there. To lighten up the mood you can put pictures of them on their wedding day or a happy moment that was caught on camera. You can then put a note off to the side and say something like "Grandpa Joe's first time driving". Or something to lighten up the mood when they see the pictures.

I’m also debating whether I should display my grandparents’ photos because in my culture you don’t show anything sad on a wedding. It’s a sign of bad luck. So I don’t know how my guests would see that as. Now I’m thinking that I might just wear the bracelets that my grandparents gave me.
One thing I suggest is that, you can put the pictures on a table that’s subtle (put them on the side or put them with something else) . I have seen people who did that and it was sweet.

Every wedding I've ever been to has photos of deceased loved ones on a memory table. I think its sweet.


Maybe its a regional thing?

Our venue had a bunch of shelves in the cocktail/lobby area, where we put up pictures of our missing family members. Some of these were wedding photos (DH's aunt had a gorgeous wedding photo of her parents that she kindly copied for us), some were portraits... whatever we felt was a good photo of the loved one.

We didn't do candles, or even label them - they were just clearly family whose presence we missed.

Visible, but not a big deal, and very common now.