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Rachel
Just Said Yes October 2019

The grooms sister

Rachel, on August 31, 2019 at 6:58 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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I have my fiancé’s sister to be my bridesmaid. She is getting married 20 days before us. I understand her need to plan her wedding be be all about her. However, we get married October 19. We are coming done to the wire. All of my other bridesmaids have gotten their dresses. I was super flexible, all i said was it needs to be long and a certain color. They pick whatever style they want. She still has not gotten her dress. At what point do i say screw it and order a dress and she no longer gets a choice? I don’t want us to get to close and her not be able to get a dress in on time.

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Latest activity by Denise, on September 3, 2019 at 1:37 PM
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    If she doesn't get a dress, she won't be able to stand with you on your wedding day. Simple Smiley smile

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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
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    Yup. 100%!
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  • Jess
    Expert October 2019
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    Hey we have the same date! honestly i would do it in a week or so. you’ve tried, but i would maybe be upfront and say “hey if you can’t order it by this date then i’ll have to order one and just pick it for you.”

    it’s important to set expectations and boundaries with your bridesmaids!
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
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    Life still goes on even when you’re planning a wedding. It’s not a 24/7 job, and if she wants to be in your wedding she can make the time to get a dress. Talk to your fiancé about it and give her a date of when she needs to have the dress by. Let her know that you understand that she has her own things going on, but also that is why she should understand even better why it’s important to you that she gets on board.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I guess my answer for this would depend on the color. Like if you told them all to get a long black dress, she could do that the week of your wedding and be fine. If it’s a color that only a few places sell, she might need a few weeks. Unless you’re looking at a specific color from a specific company that needs to be ordered by a certain day, I’d let this go. If it needs to be ordered by a certain day, tell her that and move on.
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  • Rachel
    Just Said Yes October 2019
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    All i asked was for navy blue, and long
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Yes, I agree with Cher!!

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  • Florida Marlins
    Expert October 2017
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    If does not get a dress I guess she is a guest. Don't bug her about it anymore. She is a grownup. Just don't "fire" her, lol!

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  • Sandy Yoga
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    The morning of the wedding. Unless you live in a remote location with no clothing stores. She should be able to find a long navy dress pretty much anywhere off the rack. She could pick it up on her way to the wedding and have it in time.
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  • Allie
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    A long navy dress isn’t hard to find. Honestly, I’d get off her back. She’s planning her own wedding and understands the need for a bridesmaid dress for yours, which is after hers. If she doesn’t have a dress the morning of, i guess she’s a guest.
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  • MrsHamm
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    I would give her a date to get it by, if she doesn't then she's a guest

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
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    Find a dress you like and send her the link and be like hey I think this would be perfect for your bm dress. Want me to order it for you since you have so much on your plate with your own wedding?

    It'll start the conversation and if she hates it hopefully she'll speak up and you can be like ok go buy your dress

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  • Denise
    Super September 2019
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    This. 100% why am I going to put my stuff on hold ? Especially when you know she's looking at bridesmaid dresses of her own. She only has to pick one and order, it's not even like it's out of the way to do it. Just saying.

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