The Grooms Biological parents... Drama

That is a sucky situation but they all need to be adults here and remember it’s your guys day and that he wanted the support of everyone and hope they can be mature enough to be cordial. It’s not like they have to even interact much if at all

Your FH needs to sit down with his mother and step-father and make it very clear to them that this is his wedding and he wants to have his father there. They will be expected to act like adults and be civil. He also needs to make it clear to them that if there is any drama at your wedding brought on by the they will be removed from the event. He has to put his foot down. Sounds like his mom is very immature so he has to be the mature one and just be straight with her. She doesn’t get to decide who the two of you invite to your wedding. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Exactly this. His mom and step-dad need to be adults here and stop acting like spoiled, selfish children. Everything else is irrelevant; if he has feelings for her still, they dislike him, whatever. Their child is getting married and they need to put differences aside and be there for them. How selfish of his mother to be putting him through this.


Not the same, but I have two teenage sons who live with their dad and step-mom. I invited my ex-husband and his new wife, along with their other three kids. Why? Because it would make my sons feel more comfortable having people they know there. I don’t want my ex-husband at my wedding but as parents, we make sacrifices.

I’m sorry you’re stressing about this! Sadly this has to fall on your FHs hands and he needs to talk to his mom directly. And shame on her for refusing to see her son get married because her ex may be there. I think I’d come straight out and say, “Grow up, get over it and if you can’t put your differences aside for one day, the it sounds like you aren’t over him versus the other way around. “

The father should have nothing to do with their attendance. It is her son's wedding, not hers. She should be there regardless. Maybe, its the step father that doesn't like him and the mom is just trying to please him.

Take your cues from FH and support him in his decision. Also, security at the wedding will be your friend.

I am so sorry about this OP. FH’s parents are acting immaturely and need to put their feelings aside for their son’s special day. Regardless of how they feel about FH’s biological father personally or as a father, it would be incredibly disappointing for them to miss their son’s wedding because they couldn’t put aside their feelings and act like mature, respectful adults. I can only imagine how FH feels about this, poor thing is caught in the middle of adults who cannot behave properly.

I think FH needs to stand his ground with his mother and stepfather and express his feelings, and how ridiculous it is that their personal issues would get in the way of attending the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. He needs to address the situation with them. And they all need to behave maturely. Security is typically required by most venues and can resolve this for you if anything happens.
Support his decision.