The Dilemma of Choosing Who Should Walk Me Down the Aisle

What if you're step dad walked you half way and then your dad walked you the rest?

I was actually just about to recommend the same thing @mimitrue just recommended until I refreshed the page. Either your dad or step-dad could start walking you down the aisle, then hand you off to the other half-way down. I would recommend maybe that your step-father start the walk down the aisle so your biologic father could "give you away"--only because you're leaning towards having your bio-dad walk you down the aisle completely at this point.

I'm just worried that they would each want a moment completely to themselves and I was hoping to find something different that my step-dad could do.

Britini, don't forget this day is about you and FH. Focus on what would make YOU happy. I think the suggested idea of half and half is awesome, and if it's something you would enjoy, tell them that's what you'd like to do. Hopefully, they will both be supportive of your wishes out of their love for you.

Do what makes you happy. I think that you made the correct decision with choosing your biological father.

I was going to suggest they both do it. One on either side to signify they are equally important and loved. I understand coming from a complicated family structure it is really hard to navigate this stuff. But like someone said do what is best for you and your FH. Don't lose sight that this is your day.

Thank you guys. I'm going to try to find something else special for my step dad to do, as I'd really rather them not both do it. I've got lots of planning time, I'll try to look up ideas

Both my parents walked with me down the aisle. No one "gave me away." I've always thought it wasn't an honor that is only bestowed on a male, family member; that idea is sexist and outdated. Had my parents divorced, and I had spent my whole life living with my mother, she would have walked with me by herself.

I attended a wedding where the bride's mother, father, and step-father all took turns walking her down the aisle. That seemed fair and equal, to me.

Can your step dad do a reading at the ceremony or toast at the wedding? Good luck!

I was also going to recommend that your step dad could do a reading from the ceremony. You could also do a dance with him at the reception. Whatever makes you happy

Someone recommended this to me for a similar situation. Give your stepfather a card that day expressing how much he has meant to you in your life and get him his own boutineere (sp?)

I love the reading idea!

Maybe a wine ceremony is a good option for you. Wine ceremonies usually involve the couple blending separate wines, then drinking a toast. But it can also be adapted to include parents. All three of your parents could participate.

Your three parents each pour a little bit of wine, symbolizing their contributions to your life.

Your fiance's parents do the same, symbolizing their contributions to his life.

The two carafes are then poured into one, symbolizing the blending of you and fiance's lives into one.

Wine is then poured into glasses and all seven of you drink a toast to your marriage.

Why not have then both walk you down

I'm having my stepdad do a reading in my wedding. He reads in church so it will actually be a great tie in. Do either dads have more daughters? My stepdad has two others while I'm my bio dads only so that helped in my decision also. Good luck.

It's hard for them too because this is also a big day for them. It's tough, I know, but adults have feelings too. I was told by my stepmom when I was 13 that my dad would refuse to walk with my stepdad down the aisle, guess they saw that somewhere and he thought it looked terrible. My stepmom kinda lied a lot and she's passed now so I just let it roll as I'm not going to really ask my dad his opinion on the matter.

It's a very personal decision.

I'm sorry your mom lied about your dad. That's the saddest part of your post.

Thank you guys so much! I have a few great ideas now and I think the reading, card, and wine ceremony are ~excellent~ ideas.

And thank you for giving me insight into your family situations as well. And Eleanor, I just saw that your wedding is today! Thank you and congratulations <3

This day is about you and your FH. What does your heart tells you to do? Only you have the answer. You are blessed to have "Two dads" despite the family drama. Embrace it and communicate it with them both. Best of luck!