What are your plans for the brunch the morning after? Where are you having it, what are you serving, who is paying for it, who is invited? Invites won't go out for some time but we expect quite a few out of town friends. Neither of us come from very traditional/etiquette-driven people, so I'm not sure where to even start.
Tbh if it starts to look like more of a hassle than it's worth, I have no problem meeting some of our fam and oot guests at an IHOP or something. 😂
We didn’t do one because it seemed like too much of a hassle and it wasn’t in the budget to pay for another event haha. It would have been nice to see everyone before they left but we had met out of town guests the night before the wedding so felt like we got to see everyone. If everyone is staying at the same hotel one option could be to just mention what time you’ll be down there so people can say goodbye. If not, I wouldn’t stress too much. Like you said, you could always do something super casual with just family.
We had our breakfast at the restuarant in our venue's (a hotel) lobby. Originally we talked about renting out a space within our venue to host the breakfast, but it was going to be $300 to rent the room plus x amount per person for food and drinks with a minimum of 35 people. Because of venue was only 1.5 hours from where our families live we weren't sure exactly how many people were planning on staying overnight. We checked with our venue to see how many guests had booked rooms at that point and it was only like five couples, but it was still pretty early on. We also spoke with a few restaurants about booking a room for breakfast, but they also had a minimum number of guests recommended so we choose not to go that route. Our venue had another option. On Sundays from 8:00-10:30 they have a breakfast buffet for $15.95 per person. Guests could also order from the menu if they wanted to and then pay whatever the cost was for what they ordered. Our venue coordinator recommended still trying to find out how many people wanted to attend so they could guarantee enough tables. While some people might not agree with guests paying for their our food, we felt this was the best option. They were going to need breakfast anyways whether they had it with us or bought something to eat on their way home. So we included the information on our reply card with the cost. We asked guests to let us know if they would be attending so we could let the venue know if they needed more space, but a lot of the guests either said yes then didn't show up or didn't fill it out at all on the reply card so I was glad we choose this option rather than paying to rent the space for $300 plus for food per person because we would have paid a lot more than what we would have needed to because of people saying they were attending that actually ended up not attending afterall.
We had one at the restaurant in the hotel where we had our block, and we paid for it. We invited the wedding party, close family members, and all out of town guests. We did a buffet with the usual breakfast stuff--eggs, sausages, potatoes, fruit, pastries, coffee, and juice. I think the whole thing cost around $2K but we felt it was important to not have guests pay for it, especially after they already spent good money to travel to our wedding and stay in the hotel. But we actually invited all out of town guests, not just the ones who chose to stay in the hotel block. It ended up working out very well--we repurposed some of our floral centerpieces for the breakfast, and hotel upgraded our room since we spent so much money there! I have been to one wedding before where the day-after breakfast was at a restaurant and people paid for themselves, and we still went, ordered food, and had a good time. But it was more chaotic and everyone was not able to sit together. I would recommend paying for the breakfast if you're in a position to do so, but if you can't, it's not a huge problem.
I’ve never been to a day after brunch, but this sounds like a lot of fun. My fiancé and I already go to First Watch with our friends for brunch on a regular basis, so maybe we’d just do one of our usual little meetups the day after ☺️
We are having one at our venue. The room is actually included in our package with the wedding. Our venue is a hotel. Since we are meeting the minimum for the venue already for food and revenue they are giving us a free breakfast for the guests in the room. But it doesn't sound like much to me so I will probably fork over some more money to upgrade just a bit. They offer scrambled eggs, toast, bacon, sausage. They said we can upgrade for 100 to have pancakes/ waffles along with potatoes. I will probably do that. I don't think 100 extra is too bad.
We thought about it since there’s a great brunch overlooking the lake at the resort most of our guests were staying at, but we nixed it. Our wedding weekend started on Thursday. We hosted multiple additional events for all our guests which included open bar (Welcome/Rehearsal Dinner, BBQ/Pool Party, Wine Tasting, golf, after party) so most were pretty hungover and partied out by Sunday morning so I’m glad we didn’t. Plus, the introvert in me was ready to be alone with my husband. Haha
We were staying at the same hotel and most people were leaving that Sunday so we were all running into each other at the property (while checking out, loading up cars, etc) so we were able to say goodbye to everyone. But I do love when there’s a day-after brunch!!
We are not planning on having a brunch. We are having a massive rehearsal dinner (basically the same amount of people as the wedding because my FH parents wanted everyone out of town invited and everyone but my parents are from out of town). So we don’t see the point of having another event. BUT, we did choose the hotel for guests so that they would have breakfast included in the room rate! That way everyone will have breakfast in the same area and we will probably stop by and say hi
We are having our brunch at one of the hotels we have room blocks at. My parents are paying for it but it works out to only be about $3,000 for everything and all of our guests are invited. Our wedding in semi-destination so we really wanted to have a full weekend of events for everyone! Best of luck with your planning!