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Alana
Savvy October 2020

“The Date Decision” Saga Part 1

Alana, on August 8, 2019 at 5:39 PM Posted in Planning 0 8
Hello WW Queens and Kings!

I come to you all in need of advice! After much deliberation my FH and I have FINALLY chosen our venue. It was one of those classic episodes of “We looked everywhere and ended up with the first place that we should’ve just gone with from the start🙃”. The price also went up dramatically at the other place so byeeeeee!

Now we we just need...THE DATE. Basically all of their Saturdays are filled until mid September 2020 so if we want it earlier it’ll have to be a Friday which I don’t mind. The ceremony will be at a Catholic Church.

The dilemma. I don’t mind having it in September, however my FH has grown rather tired of my indecisive behavior (shoot I’m tired of it too!) and would like to have it in May. For me, that’s too soon, but I guess I’m also just nervous about really getting this show on the road.

We’ve been engaged for 2yrs now. The first year and a half we were both still super busy with our personal careers (him, getting his second degree in Virginia, me, showbiz in NYC) and were still long distance so the only “planning” we did was making a shared Pinterest wedding board😅.

So yes, back to my plea, HELP lol! You all have such great energy and advice. I’ve never been the “I’ve been dreaming of this day since I was a little girl” type so being excited about planning this is foreign to me. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to have a celebration with family and friends, but the marriage is the priority for me.

Thanks y'all! 💜

8 Comments

Latest activity by Kelly, on August 9, 2019 at 10:34 AM
  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    It sounds like the idea of a reception is a bit stressful for you and that it’s not about the marriage itself. If I read that correctly then maybe you can get married sooner and just do something small and celebrate later with a larger group of friends and family.
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  • D
    Super July 2020
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    May is totally doable but how much help is FH willing to do since the relationship is still long distance?
    Is the venue all inclusive? Tables, chairs, food and alcohol, China, linens included?
    A later date doesn't mean you can hold off planning but it means you can have a better pace to plan.
    Personally I would rather have a Saturday but that's me.
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  • Alyssa
    Dedicated January 2020
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    You could totally do May! Use the WW planning tools to help you get stuff done! It has helped me! (Engaged end of June, wedding is Jan 25!) There are ways to save time and money, like skipping save the dates (word of mouth and evites!), find a venue/caterer that will get all your rentals organized, ask your girls for help (so many of my bridesmaids have connections and friends who have some mad decorating skills). If you want May, you got this!

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    I agree, May is definitely doable! The biggest thing to keep in mind is more guests = more $$$ you pay

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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
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    You have plenty of time to plan a wedding for May. If they have a date open, just book it. Planning becomes simpler since your options become narrowed, and I think it’s easier to become decisive about things when you have a date in place. It removes the option of procrastination! Congrats!
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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
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    I would probably be inclined to go with May Smiley smile
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  • Meghan
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    With this app/site I think that it would be completely doable for May! It just depends on what you guys agree on and whats available.
    Personally we're doing October 2020. We started officially dating in October and just love the fall season anyway, so it was an easy decision for us.

    If you guys have any sentimental value to either month I would say that over the other!
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
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    I think if you're both long distance a longer lead time might be beneficial for you to plan. My parents got married in May in the Catholic Church and had to plan around Lent so make sure to ask the church when you can have the wedding then ask the venue for those dates.
    If marriage is the priority you could just do an intimate church wedding and skip the reception or do a quick cake and punch reception.
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