The crazy cousin is back

There’s always got to be that one person that tries to ruin everything. My question is why are letting 1 crazy cousin control your emotions? If you let her control your emotions than she’s winning! Take back control!

She sounds like a very insecure and jealous person. There obviously something wrong with her. I know it hurts to hear that she is talking bad about you, but remember she has issues not you. Don't talk back bad about her, don't even defend yourself, because hunny she isn't worth a second of your time. All the people who love you and know you will support you no matter what she has to say. And they will be there on your special day. With her talking bad and complaining about you all that's going to do is eventually make people see what a horrible person she is. If she keeps it going she may end up with a smaller guest list then she would like. People tend not to enjoy listening to someone like her. Yes her family isn't talking to you guys but that's because they are her family and family should have each others backs, although they should be putting her in check for the way she's acting. But then again they could be just like her. I'm sorry you're dealing with this especially from a family member. I know you said you haven't talked so maybe it's time to permanently cut ties with her all together. Even toxic family members need to be cut from your life. I eventually realized that and cut ties with my dads family because they are so toxic. I wish you luck.

I agree with pp she sounds like a very toxic insecure person. Sounds like she is ranting cause you get to keep your date and currently it's about your wedding and not hers. you keep your head high beautiful and you focus on your wedding,. you are not selfish at all for having a wedding hang in there and congrats your wedding is coming up soon

She seems to spend an insane amount of time trying to be unhappy.

I recommend you tell your family to please refrain from repeating negative comments she says about you to her. I never understood why people do this.

Do you have a relative in common, not either of your mothers, but another ant or uncle, or grandmother on that side? Someone you could explain the hurtfulness to your cousin, to get her to cease and desist, and stop spreading meanness withing the family? In my family, I would get a phone call from a contininent away, saying, bad child, why are you spreading poison about your cousin's wedding. Every relative who hears this poison from your mouth, thinks badly of you. Stop it. Or I will call personally, every aunt, uncle, and cousin, and give them my opinion of a grandchild who gossips meanly about another.
And that would be it.

I seen this on social media, thought it was a good one to keep in mind.

I feel you on cousins going around saying terrible things behind your back.

In my case, it's my mother, most of my cousins, and probably my uncle.

The solution to this is to *really, really, REALLY* ignore her. Take the high road. If people ask you why you haven't moved, be honest: you can't. Don't take it any further than that, don't mention her, and if other people do, change the subject.

I'm sorry. Toxic family is awful.

You know what, just go about your life - these kind of people are so worked up over nothing. So just giving them any time of day is gonna just give them that satisfaction all the more