The constant disappointment

Well you two are adults and ultimately family will make big life events about themselves but you should do what makes you two happy. Even if they are upset they will get over it. You ever consider a small intimate ceremony (just parents and maybe a few close friends) and in 2021 do a big party to celebrate the marriage?

Oh honey no. I am sorry do not live your life and do other things for others. You two do what makes you two happy. If it is just you two then who cares. They can get over it.

Honestly, it's your wedding, so if you want it to be just the two of you, that's up to you. The only thing to consider is legal requirements for witnesses to sign the marriage license.

Sometimes things just can't be all smooth sailing, especially with wedding planning where everyone thinks they get an opinion and that their opinion is the most important one. Good luck!

We are eloping and I definitely have NOT made friends with his parents over it. But the whole point of the ceremony is two lives coming together and celebrating the love you share. I get irritated with people acting like you owe it to them (esp since this is the second marriage for each of us). Like....you've already seen this once? Lol.

If they genuinely want to share in that moment, you can always try to live stream it. Otherwise, just remember who it's for and what it's about. Weddings can be so unnecessarily stressful, but you are the one who gets to make the decisions.

THIS.

If your family wants to dictate what you do, but can't be bothered to communicate with you...

Do what you want.

I'm eloping as well, due to COVID and we have no regrets. My FH is really shy so this worked out in his favor. :-)

Almost the same! We have postponed our "big" wedding but are doing a microwedding this summer. My fiance is so happy about it and says this is the kind of wedding he wanted anyway!