I'm getting married June 2020...
I will be 37 at that time
Groom's first marriage
My second marriage
(However this is my first time getting to wear a dress, walking the aisle and having a reception ETC as my first marriage was a shame ... groom didn't even want to kiss me at the court house was more of a control thing... I was a stupid teenager)
Groom wants to make his first and only marriage/wedding to be very traditional and give me everything that i missed out on the first time around ....
Upon discussion of the ceremony I ran into an issue that we both disagree on.....
He wants my Biological father to walk me down the aisle .... because he thinks he is a cool dude and met him multiple times
I want the man I called dad from the time i was born to walk me down the aisle. .. he has only met him once in person
Long story short my mom moved to another state when she was prego with me and married the man i called dad before i was born. I was not told my DAD was not my dad until i was about 10 years old after her and my DAD divorced ( devastation). I'm still his baby girl to this day.
Both men are in my life now.
My DAD is living in another state about to move back here to Michigan this year.
My biological father visits periodically but i still feel awkward around him after all these years. I do not call my biological father dad as i feel its disrespectful to my DAD. ( but he will introduce himself as my dad)
My kids call both of them PAPA- ( Insert first name)
Both men are referred to as my dad by family and friends depending on who know who.. often times my reply is which one? lol
My Fiance insist that my biological father walk me down the aisle only.
Honestly i'm not comfortable with that.
I feel it will hurt my Dads feelings. So i tried to suggest that both of them walk me down... that got shot down. I suggested one walk me half way and the other the second half.. that got shot down. now my mom wants to shoot both of them down and wants to walk me down herself because she raised me ... both me and fiance shot that one down..... its just a big issue i need help solving.... my next option is walking alone and honestly i can picture that more then anything,.... but finance insts its tradition and he wants my biological father to walk me