Thanksgiving Eve

Nothing rude about it. It has the potential to be inconvenient due to existing family plans/time off work, etc but that is a far cry from being rude. That's something you have to work out with your potential guests. Ask them if the date works for their schedules or if you need to move it to another date.

I don't think it's necessarily rude, but, depending on family plans, you may get a low response rate. I know my mom and I are cooking for hours Thanksgiving Eve (in our separate homes) to get things prepped and ready to go for the next day.

Also, I'm guessing this is for next year? Send out save the dates 12 months in advance, guests can alter their plans to accommodate your wedding. Maybe a scaled back family dinner menu so less prep just the one time. It takes creativity to work out logistics but it can be pulled off easily.

I agree with others that it’s not rude, per se, as you are free to get married on any day you choose! But, you might have a higher than normal decline rate from guests, so just consider whether this would upset you and whether you would take it personally. I would just go into it with the mentality of whoever can make it, great, and if not we understand it’s a busy time of year. One thing to think about, and I swear I’m not trying to be a Debbie Downer, is that I think a lot of families will either skip or greatly scale back Thanksgiving celebrations this year, so it might be an even more important event to them next year when hopefully things are back to normal so you might be up against that.

Not rude but I’d expect several people decline due to having other plans. Which, honestly, is to be expected when planning a holiday near any holiday

When planning a *wedding near a holiday

I don't think it is rude, but I don't think it is an ideal time for a wedding. I think you will have a very high decline rate, as most people spend that time traveling/with family. If that is your only option, then it is what it is; but I would look for a different venue that has a more desirable date.

It’s not rude. But, although your guests live locally, that doesn’t mean they planned to remain local over the Thanksgiving holiday.

Hey friend! We are getting married the 28th, Saturday after thanksgiving because it is our 4.5 year dating anniversary. (we would have done it on our actual anniversary but we wanted to save up more $$ and it would have been too short of an engagement period to plan the way i wanted, and we didn't want to wait another whole year) We didn't realize right away it was right after thanksgiving, but we thought "this will be a great way to get everyone together and have a big get together and meet around thanksgiving!" Oh I could not have been more wrong lol. It has caused a lot of unneeded drama and neither families want to collaborate so we are having two separate thanksgivings. While it may be different in your family if both sides don't hate each other (like mine do) I would caution other brides against it. Personally I don't care about thanksgiving from a holiday standpoint, i enjoy the family gatherings but I don't really celebrate the history behind it so I didn't think much of having my wedding near a holiday, but if i could redo everything i would not have chosen that weekend. Not to mention that it was difficult for my bridesmaid to decide when to arrive because she is missing thanksgiving with her family, we have to work around break schedules for kids in school/groomsmen in college, and very few of my extended family is even coming. Which sucks because they are the majority of our guests since I have a large family. I definitely don't think it is rude though, just be aware people have other plans.

TLDR: My wedding is that weekend: it has caused issues, I would not recommend it. However it is not rude, just be aware that any people will not come.

The two things to consider that I haven't seen mentioned are scheduling the rehearsal & other activities (if you have an RD) and the expense of travel. Typically, flights the week of Thanksgiving are significantly more expensive, so if you have many guests who will have to fly, I'd take that into account. And if the wedding is on Wednesday, what will your options be for a rehearsal and/or any other prewedding activities? Take into account how much time your guests may need to take off prior to Wednesday, and how much of a challenge that might be for them. A friend's daughter was married on the Wednesday between Christmas and New Year's a few years ago. Initially, they thought, "Wow! What a great day -- lots of people are off." In hindsight, it meant that many people/families needed to change or give up their typical holiday plans and travel was significantly more expensive. Friend said if they'd thought more about it, they wouldn't have scheduled that way.