Thank You Notes

Each to their own but honestly if you made it to my wedding, gift or no gift, everyone will receive a thank you note. For me, I'm doubling up our favor bags as a thank you. It has a personalized message on the front.

To me it seems kind of shady to send a thank-you note to somebody who didn't give a gift. It's somewhat passive aggressive, but that's just me!

I agree that I think it's kind of passive-aggressive (even if you don't mean it to be) to send a thank you note to someone for attending. That's what the reception is. It just highlights the fact that they didn't give a gift.

I gave everyone a thank you card anyway

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That's what I originally thought but I'm conflicted I guess. If worded carefully, saying "we really appreciate you coming to our wedding and celebrating with us" and maybe pointing out a detail we remember with them from the night isn't so bad. At least if I read that I don't think I'd be like "oh they're asking for money". Idk! I really don't want to write any more cards than I have to lol. I need more people to weigh in on this topic!

I don’t think it’s necessary for people that didn’t bring a gift. Think about other situations outside of weddings, you don’t receive a thank you card for attending someone’s housewarming party or birthday party, only if a gift was brought. If it’s important to you to thank everyone for attending then go for it but I don’t think it’s necessary.

This is a tough one lol. I had originally planned on sending a thank you card to everyone who attended, but I agree with Cher and Lady! I don't think I would take it that way if I received a thank you card and didn't send a gift (which I would never do), but I could see how someone else could take it that way now that I think about it. Now I'm conflicted too lol

I think I'm leaning towards only sending thank you cards to those who sent a gift, I agree with what Lady said about the reception being the thank you for attending (because who doesn't love free food and booze? )

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Agree with this too! I also think you could completely avoid this no gift thank you note situation just by making sure to speak to every guest at the wedding to thank them for coming, or even just saying so in a speech.

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Yeah we did pretty much thank everyone with a toast, went table to table, free food and alcohol, favors. Now I am leaning towards my original thought to only send them to those who gave a gift.

We will be thanking everyone for attending at the wedding. Cards will be sent to those who brought a gift.